Post # 1
I’ve noticed in a lot of ceremonies that people are now saying “I accept you as you are, take you to be my best friend, etc.” Does that mean there’s no longer an “I do” in there? I’ve been reading through some of the ceremonies that the bees have posted and nowhere in there do I see the “I do.”
Is the “I do” outdated and no longer used in ceremonies?
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s outdated. Most traditional ceremonies still do it. Recently, it was become very popular to personalize the ceremony (and the whole wedding) and one way people do this is by writing their own vows that say to each other. I have also see personalized vows structured as questions, so the other partner still answers with “I do”
Post # 4
Yeah, you can write your own vows, which is what you’re talking about. But the actual traditional vows are still there. Although in many cases (like my wedding), the correct response is “I will,” not “I do,” so many couples don’t say “I do.”
Post # 5
I think a lot more people are doing more personalized vows now, which is great for people who aren’t shy about having a lot of lines in front of a lot of people. Both Fiance and I are pretty quiet people and had a bit of stagefright, so we decided on having the officiant read out vows and having us simply say “I do” at the end. We also threw in a line to repeat after the officiant while putting on our rings…
“As a symbol of my love and promise of all my tomorrows, I give you this ring. You are my love, my best friend, and with this ring I take you to be my husband.”
Post # 6
We wrote our ceremony and we put it in there. Then at the actual wedding Darling Husband said either yes or I will, so I just matched what he said so he wouldn’t look like an ass. So we were supposed to have it, but didn’t. Didn’t make much difference in the end.
Post # 7
I’ve seen a lot of ceremonies that changed the “I do” to the “I will” …”Will you take this bride…? I will” However, you can be sure that this will be the first question I ask whoever will be the officient of my wedding and if their script uses “will,” I will be asking them to change it to “do.” 🙂 I’ve wanted to say those two words my whole life!! 🙂
Post # 8
@mrsgantz: So have Fiance and I! I found a way to get it in there. We had the “I take you to be my best friend, etc.” And he said he can’t live without the “I do” so I wrote out a ceremony and got it in there!