(Closed) I dont agree with her.

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

As a married gal with an “opinionated” MIL- DO NOT remove it. It’s your wedding, and your decisions, not hers. Establish these boundries now.

Also, my own mother works at Macy’s and she loves when people she knows register there because she gets a great discount. Plus they always have sales and promotions where people can get the employee discount. So 20% off a $40 item…. I’d say most people can afford it.

Post # 18
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you should definitely keep it and you are right…Macy’s always has sales!

Post # 19
3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Keep it how it is, you have given people heaps of choice, it’s not as if you’ve registered only at Macy’s. Does your Future Mother-In-Law know that you’ve also registered elsewhere? A simple “Thanks for the thought but we registered with a lot of variety and I have a lot of friends/family who like to shop at Macy’s so we’ll keep it how it is.” should suffice. 

Post # 20
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Keep your registry as it is…some people will want to go in on gifts together…I went to a babl shower the other day and she registered for almost all items over $100…..

Post # 21
1642 posts
Bumble bee

I’m of the understanding that you registered at more places than Macy’s right?

If you haven’t, I’d totally register at Target or Bed Bath and Beyond as well. 

Regardless, you’re both adults and can make your own registry choices. And Macy’s is a perfectly fine place. They’re well-priced and they’re ALWAYS having sales!


When my SO married the first time around, his then-fiancee registered at only two places. Neimans and Tiffanys. THAT’S a poor choice of registry. She insisted that her family had lots of money and would buy everything for her. None of them even brought a present.

Post # 22
1086 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

keep it. Your Mother-In-Law needs to mind herself.

Post # 23
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Sounds like you had fun doing your registry! Glad to hear you and your Fiance are enjoying the process. It is frustrating to hear your Future Mother-In-Law disagree. Muster up a big smile and a thanks but no thanks response. Also, since your Fiance participated fully with you in this decision, perhaps he can help (or be the one to) talk to his mom and tell her that he and you together decided it and are keeping it that way.

And besides, whoever thinks Macy’s is expensive must not be getting the gazillions of coupons that I get… I get better prices at Macy’s than at Targer or Superwalmart most of the time because we time our shopping with clearances and extra percents off. As a matter of fact (believe it or not), I just bought a party dress there last week…after all the discounts and a remaining $7 credit form the “star rewards program” (offered every holiday season), I ended up paying less than $2 for the dress!!!

Good luck with standing your ground!

Post # 25
3978 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ignore her… which is what I do for most things my Future Mother-In-Law says that I don’t agree with.

Post # 26
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I’m in a similar situation. Most of FI’s family are very wealthy but my family is very poor. Most of them live paycheck to paycheck and could never afford 30-40 dollars for a gift. My mom brought this to my attention BEFORE we did our registry. I really want my family to be there and to not feel guilty about not being able to purchase an expensive gift. We are creating two registries for that reason, with different price ranges. First one will be 10-20 and second will be 20+.

It stinks that she told you after you already made it, but maybe you could make another one that is more affordable? It really depends on the financial situation of your family members.

Post # 27
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Keep it. If she, or anyone else, thinks its too expensive then they dont have to buy anything off of it. Plus Macys has sales like every other day so i dont see the problem.

Post # 28
544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Keep YOUR registry.  If your Mother-In-Law thinks the items are too pricey, then SHE doesn’t need to purchase any of them. 

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