Post # 1
…it’s a white dress that you wear on one day of your life, then it gets stuffed in a box in the attic and you forget about it until your daughter announces her engagement, then you offer it to her in your excitement, but you’re crushed when she refuses because it’s “old-fashioned.”
/end rant lol.
I think it’s just because I’m poor and my mom, bless her heart, is working so much overtime to save up for my wedding dress. We have a pitiful budget of about $700, maybe $800 if she can pay in installments or do layaway.
I can’t help but be taken in by the whirlwind of excitement when I go dress shopping, and I’ve already identified at least 2 as THE ONE. I hop on WB and drool over all the beautiful designer dresses I won’t dare to try on, or I’ll convince myself it’s worth taking out a wedding loan for.
But I lose sight of the fact that most, if not all of my guests don’t keep up with the latest trends and dresses. I don’t think they’d know the difference if I walked down the aisle in a $150 ball gown with just a hoop skirt and 2 layers of taffeta/tulle, or in a slinky $2k dress that’s really nothing to write home about.
At this point, I’m just planning on hitting all the smaller boutiques so I can haggle for a floor sample, and if all else fails, just go down to Santee in Southern California which I hear has the best deals around.
I just wanted to get that off my chest, thanks!
Post # 3
My budget was $850, but I spent $950 on my gown, on sale from $1100. Go to Davids Bridal girl, they have tons of gowns that are gorgeous $700 and under and do layaway if you buy off the rack. They also have a clearance section of wedding gowns, these dresses are discontinued from previous years collections to make room for the new lines.
Post # 4
check out used dresses – there’s a bunch of sites, and you can also check out nearlynewlywed, which is new, but I believe they have a guaranteed buy-back program.
Post # 5
$700/$800 isn’t a bad budget for a dress at all! Definitely check pre-worn. Also, supposedly, December is the time to buy a gown because it’s slow… from what I read in some news articles… who knows. haha. But I used two bridal shops against each other. One offered that, whatever I find, to contact her and she could probably get me a better price. I checked online for the lowest authorized retailer price ($1,200), and told her. She beat it by $100, and then I went to another shop and told her that, and she met that price and said they could add in things like alterations or shoes or whatnot. So… maybe you could work some prices down, especially this month? Couldn’t hurt to try maybe?
Post # 6
@fzesguer: Honey you need to check out sales at Nordstrom/Lord and Taylor/etc.
I have seen some wedding dresses (“white” gowns) that are on sale for around $300 all the time! Seriously.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
I sold a dress on Preownedweddingdresses.com for a fraction of what I bought it for. I knew I wouldn’t get what I bought it for but I had no use for it and I wanted someone else to have it. You can find lots of great designers for way less than what brides paid for them. Also try sample and trunk sales. You can get a dress for sometimes 50-75% off. And usually when they have these sales they will also have $100 dresses. I bought my 2nd dress at a sample sale. No shame in having a small budget. As you said its only going to be worn once.
I used to believe in”The One” but now that I’ve felt that 2 dresses are “The One” (why I sold first dress and bought a different one) I realize there are always going to be new and better dresses coming out every few months. There is no “The One” its “The One Right Now”. Thats my feeling anyway.
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I think you can get a lovely gown for under $500 actually and save some money. Do a search for “gowns under $500” – there are a few posts on it.
I don’t think it’s necessary to have the OMG THE DRESS! feeling either. My gown looked good on me and it was a deal. Was I in love with it? No, but it’s pretty! And – get this – it was 7 years old, brand new. It was a classic.
Post # 10
My dress was only $700. Ugh, I hate saying that because that sounds like a lot of money to me. Anyway. Check out Venus and Mori Lee dresses!
Post # 11
my dress was $600. that’s a lot of money! there’s just no way I could have spent into the thousands of dollars for a garment worn for a few hours. check out dollycouture.com
Post # 12
Hear, hear. I wont deny anyone else their experience and if they want to plunk down tons of money, more power to them – but it’s just not something that’s right for me. (Not to mention, clumsy bride + tacos at reception = I am not spending that much on a white dress.) My budget was $600, max $800 with alterations, FIRM – and I definitely felt like people were holding back to try and make me spend more. Sorry, NOPE. I know too much about what works for me and my body to believe I can’t find something that makes me look bangin’ for less than a month’s rent.
Anywhoo, my tastes were a little simpler compared to the wedding dresses I tried on, so I ended up working with this amazing shop owner who ordered a bridesmaid dress in ivory! It’s soooo much closer than any of the dresses I tried that were hundreds more, and she’s helping us embellish it (adding a strap and fabric flowers) for no extra charge. AND I came in at HALF my budget!! If you don’t need tons of beading or intricate details, that might be a good option to try…and since it’s less expensive, you might find yourself having more fun with it and being more open to customizing it yourself! Win win win. Either way, good luck and keep doing what feels right for you. No dress is worth that much, if it’s not worth that much TO YOU. 😉
Post # 13
@vorpalette: I agree. Saying that a $700 budget is pitiful when someone is clearly work so hard to afford it rubs me the wrong way. Not sure what universe some people grow up in, but to me $700 is, and will always, be a heck of a lot of money. (Especially for a dress, albeit a special one.)
As for my dress… it certainly was THE DRESS. I fell in love with it the moment I saw it and knew that it was THE DRESS for me. Since then, I’ve stopped trying on dresses and still haven’t seen a dress that I love more than mine. I’m not looking though, so that could play a part in me having THE DRESS. Perhaps since I didn’t dream of a $5,000 wedding dress, and my dream dress was actually VERY affordable, that plays a part too?
Post # 14
budget tips borrow or buy under things online ! Do out of store alterations
Post # 15
@vorpalette: I am emberassed to tell people I spent 550 on mine :/ especially since it was 1/4th the budget :S it is a lot if money !
Post # 16
I got mine on BHLDN.com for $425 on sale, including shipping! They have a ton of dresses on sale and they allow returns within 30 days (even send a prepaid return address with the dress!) if you don’t like it. Take a look and see if they have something you love and if they do, take a chance, and you can return it if you don’t love it!