(Closed) problems finding an officiant/caring about it

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Well, try emailing or Skyping with the ministers that you do have available. That might be a first step. Hmm… see if there are any Universalist Unitarian congregations around, they are non-dogmatic, everyone finds their own truth sort of thing… so I’m sure they would be fine having a non-religious ceremony.

Post # 5
749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Do you have anyt friends who would be willing to get ordained? Thats what we are doing, costs 30 bucks and its way more special than a stranger we found on craigslist 🙂

Post # 6
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Mr TTR and I Eloped to the US South…

We just went to the Internet and looked up Officants

Try GOOGLING – Getting Married in Buffalo – (as an example)

OR GOOGLE for Officiants – Officiants in the Finger Lakes – (as an example)

Then make a list of what you find, and what their particulars are (most nowadays have Websites)

Next up contact those by email that interest you to see if they are available on your date

Based on their replies (you’ll also get a feel for their style, tone, caring attitude) make another list of who to talk to by phone

We went thru the process twice as our Destination Wedding Plans changed… once in Myrtle Beach and once in The Florida Keys, and did this both times.  It worked out well for us in the end.

We had a non-denominational non-religious (but spiritually uplifting) Ceremony and it was wonderful

In all honesty, I don’t think most Guests would even notice… as all the usual bits are still included “Do you ___ take ___ for Better for Worse… etc”

Hope this helps,

PS… If you want some help with this send me a PM and tell me the area of Upstate NY, and I can probably do some digging for you


Post # 7
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I cannot recommend the people at NJ Vows Now enough.  We had the most wonderful customized ceremony.  My guests said it was the most meaningul, beautiful ceremony they had ever seen.  DH & I are atheists.  Their website says they go to NY State.  I never met with them before the wedding, but we had to fill out a very detailed questionairre and do a Skype appointment.  You will not be disappointed! 


Post # 8
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I love our officiant he’s based in south jersey so idk that he’d go that far but he might be able to recommend someone. When he found out how much fi works he offered to skype with us to make it easier. Since you’re so far away I’d suggest that.  I found him was I did a search for officiants under vendors on the bee. 

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