(Closed) I DONT Deserve a Bachelorette party according to Fiance

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@BrideToBe14:  This would reaaally rub me the wrong way. Are you combining finances after marriage?

You 100% “deserve” these things. Especially when other people are throwing them for you! If he is worried about money maybe he should get back to work. The way he is acting right now is kind of gross.

Post # 33
2453 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I see nothing wrong in you spending $250 for this bachelorette party.

That said I think the consequence is this: if you pull the “it’s my money” card, he can pull the “it’s your debt” card.

Post # 34
3206 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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@BrideToBe14:  this is a confusing situation.

1. Is he unemployed by choice or because you two moved to a new city for your job?

2. Since you will be combining finances after the wedding, is he concerned about being saddled with your debt?

3. Have you guys discussed budgets, or any future financial planning?

I think I can see both of your points, but you guys are communicating in a terribly unclear and accusatory manner.

Post # 35
2864 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@BrideToBe14:  I don’t think it’s about the bachlorette party… and anyhow, doesn’t the wedding party / girls cover the bride? At least that’s how it works in my circle. If you’re traveling to them because they can’t travel, could they cover that cost as well? It’s cheaper to split the plane ticket than to hire wet nurses for a weekend.

Your Fiance needs to be more supportive and encouraging of what you want, because his choice not to work / look for a job is his choice, not yours. 

You should be able to do what you want if you’re living below your means. Fiance might be stressing out, but if he’s really in this, he should realize how much it means to you. I’d be more concerned that he doesn’t seem to get what makes you happy. 


Post # 36
1913 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods

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@mojitolady:  +1000

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