Post # 1
I found this guy on Craigslist that is ordained and performs weddings on the side. I friend requested him on fb and have been checking out his work. Well he lives about an hour away which is where my brother lives and my mom and I are going to go see my brother on Saturday and I figured that I could kill two birds with one stone and set up an appt. with the REV. on Sturday for a consultation. He put on his status that this weekend he was off so I figured he might have a half an hour to spare. I sent him an email asking if we could meet up. He said that he was really busy. I said that I wasn’t sure the next time I would be in the area and that I was going to check out people who live around me and the reception hall. So then I posted on my FB that if anyone knew someone who was ordained to let me know. The REV comments back saying how he’s done 51 weddings and I just need to be patient. I wrote back that I was afraid he would get booked before I had a chance to meet him. He responded back saying that since he works two jobs and has two kids he deserves some time off. Not a problem I understand that. As a bride and wedding planner, it’s very important to be prepared and sometimes over prepared for your wedding. Many things can go wrong and getting a head start is the best way to go. I only have 6 months to go until the wedding and having someone marry us is, uh, kinda important.
I guess I’m just kind of irritated that he’s telling me to be patient. This to me is showing that he doesn’t care to much, especially since this is his side job.
Post # 3
ya i would find someone else.
Post # 4
look elsewhere … he sounds like a prick imo.
Post # 5
I agree with the other ladies, find someone else =) If he’s unpleasant now I can’t imagine how it’d be to work with him on the ceremony!
Post # 6
It’s just such a bummer because he was about $100 less than everyone else. I mean really $350 just to marry someone. I’m def. in the wrong profession. Ahh on to search again.
Post # 7
I would find someone else. Above all, you want someone who you click with and who WANTS to marry you. When we met our minister, we loved her but she wanted $500. We asked her if she could do it for $300 (which was still more than we had budgeted) and she said of course. And our ceremony was amazing and everyone told us how fabulous she was so she was totally worth it!
Post # 8
I would find someone else. I mean, everyone meets with different potential vendors for various roles in the wedding from florists to photographers to officiants. It’s incredibly unprofessional for him to get into a public facebook snark war with a potential client. Me thinks he’s just talked himself out of a job. Block him and find someone else.
Post # 9
Considering he’s someone who probably wants your business, and his initial response is telling you to be patient, I can only imagine what he’d be like if you were to hire him, and he didn’t have to “woo” you anymore. And you know, the $100 is probably for a reason. (Get what you pay for sort of thing).
It is a bummer to find someone/something for much cheaper and find out it’s not what you hoped for. Though I definitely agree with everyone else that this guy really doesn’t sound so good, and probably there are much better options.
Post # 10
I think you should find someone else. If he was accusatory in his e-mail, then it might not be enjoyable to deal with him during planning and on your and your Fiance’s wedding day. You want smooth sailing.
Post # 11
Sounds like someone with an attitude…AVOID him and keep searching. Best wishes for securing an officiant soon!
Post # 12
Abort! Guy sounds like an ass. If he’s this much of a jerk when he’s trying to get your business, imagine what he’d be like once he’s actually received your deposit.
Post # 13
I agree in saying find someone else, but I do have to say that this guy doesn’t sound like the AHOLE everyone is making him out to be. He probably works nonstop, and he just wanted a weekend when he didn’t have to do anything. I’m sure he could’ve probably spared a half hour for you, but does that mean he has to spare a half hour for 3 other brides that asked? And then he’s working on a day he originally had off.
I know when you’re trying to have a side business, you have to put a lot of work into it, but I don’t blame this guy for needing a day off.
Post # 14
I’m going to go against the grain here and say maybe you could give the guy a break. You could meet with him and he turns out ok. True that he probably shouldn’t have said to you to be patient, but maybe he feels like you didnt give him a chance either and was writing him off just cause he said he could meet with you *this* weekend. He should understand too that you need your bases covered. As 2PeasinaPod said, if he took just you, and just a few others, he doesnt have a day off anymore, he’s gotta draw the line somewhere, sorry it had to be with you too. I dont think its that he doenst care, just that he care about his work life balanace and doesnt appear to care about your wedding as much as you want him to. And on the flip, people who do are responsive and all and seem to care, may not care about you per say, responsiveness and a good job is just the best way to get that paycheck and referrals.
Post # 15
Yeah, you should be upset. I would find someone else. I think it was rude and inappropriate for him to tell you to be patient and say he needs time off. He’s not the only officiant around. Good luck!!
Post # 16
I think he is not reflecting well upon himself and yes you should find someone new. Telling a client you deserve some time off and the bride needs to be patience is not appropriate way to go about it. I hate when a vendor says something that makes me feel like a foolish person and don’t work with them. He also seems to have too much on his plate as it is and who knows if he will want the weekend of your wedding off as well. Can you not have a friend marry you in Ohio? All that costs is a nice gift =).