Post # 1
FI’s brother/best man rushed into marrying someone (without telling anyone) then regretted it after. He is still with her but very unhappy and told us months ago he did not want her at our wedding as she would probably steal or ruin whatever she can and we would be expected to put her up all weekend because she can’t afford to.
Now he’s been having a hard time with work and she started being really supportive so he wants to thank her by bringing her to our wedding and US paying for her gas money, hotel, dress, etc.
We said no but now he is really upset with us but come on…our wedding isn’t a thank you for people to give out especially to someone that would have no problem trashing the hotel.
Post # 3
i understand that sometimes people ask to bring a date after they initially said they were not. but expecting you to pay her expenses? wow. nothing you can do but stand your ground. i hope he gets over it soon.
Post # 4
sorry I posted this twice because this one came under accessories
Post # 5
oops.. i’ll move my response too =)
Post # 6
Ummm…weird. Yeah there is no way I’d pay for this chick’s expenses. That would be wildly inappropriate. If he wants her to go to the wedding, he should be the one to pay for it. I can’t believe he had the audacity to ask you guys to cover her expenses. So bizarre.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry! I think you have to think whether you even want her there or not. Do you want someone there with a chance that they might be causing trouble in the first place? If you don’t want her there say so, its your wedding.
Second of all, where does she get off thinking that you’re paying for her to be there?! Thats outrageous! Tell her to get in touch with reality and dream on!
Post # 8
umm, yeah, why wouldn’t he pay? She is still his wife if he stayed with her, right??