Post # 46
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
My concern would be that if he is in a car accident or something, you won’t be able to make any medical decisions necessary for him – may not even be able to get in to see him – but his wife will. Have you pointed that out to him?
Post # 47
UPDATE: spoke to SO over the weekend. I made it clear that his lack of movement on the divorce was really hurting me. He said he was sorry, and he knows that he has to get it sorted. He said he does want to marry me, I told him that wasn’t issue, and that if he didn’t want to, I was fine with that as I just want to be with him. It is just a case of him being lazy. I have spoken to a couple of people who know us and they said it’s easy to see that he loves me, and it is a case of him being a bloke and being comfortable. So I feel a lot happier, and I will now push him a little more to get it done, as that is what he needs. Thanks for all your advice – some good, some not so, but I do appreciate everyone’s point. I will update and let you all know how things go… xxxx
Post # 48
I did – so did his mother. I don’t think he had realised that……
Post # 49
Update – Its been 2 years since my last post – I can’t believe it’s been that long! Anyway, nothing has changed. I made him promise that this year he will sort out the divorce and so far he has spoken to her and they have agreed to it (tell me something I didn’t already know) but thats it. No paperwork or anything. I have it in my head that if nothing is done this year, I will look for somewhere else for me and my daughter to live, but whether I could actually go through with that remains to be seen. I love him dearly, and he loves me, but this is eating me up inside. We have a really good relationship, ups and downs like anyone, and my daughter is 15 and going through a rather moody phase which he struggles with, and he is now self employed so finances are a little strained but not on the breadline, so other than that, it’s great. We have friends who ask him about the D, and it’s a bit of a standing joke…. especially as 2 work colleagues have recently gotten engaged. Anyhow, my patience is wearing thin and I don’t really know what else to do. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated!
Post # 50
If he hasn’t bothered to do it in the last two years, why do you think he will bother now?
I get that you love him and don’t want to tear your family apart, but really. What would you say if it was your daughter in 15 years? Would you tell her to put up with it or would you tell her to move on?