(Closed) I don’t even know what to do with her at this point!!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wouldn’t worry about it, really. I am planning my wedding in 3 months, so my girls had about 8 weeks to find and order their dresses, and they ordered them about 2 weeks ago. Both are in already. It really wasn’t a big deal to me, it’s more important that they are there to stand up for me more than what they wear or how they look. If that is a priority for you, however, worse case scenario your cousin doesn’t get her dress and sits wth the guests rather than stand beside you. It’ll be ok 🙂

Post # 4
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883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Are all of your bms ordering from the same place? I would contact the store and see when the deadline for ordering it in time would be, then give her that date (or a few days before) and let her know if she can not order it by then then she will not be able to be included in the bridal party.

Post # 5
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1909 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@napabridekelsey: Wha?! She asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man at the outset and now no follow through? Is this the twilight zone day for difficult interactions with our girls?

So sorry you’re going through this. I know with my drama the last thing I want to do is hound someone to care about my wedding, especially in the last months before the big day.

Are you able to talk to her mom/your aunt about it? Does her participation or non-participation affect anything other than your sanity?

* HUGS *

Post # 6
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10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@napabridekelsey:

I understand how you feel.  I think all brides want the people they care about, especially a bridesmaid, to be supportive and a part of the significant events.  It is strange that she hasn’t come to your shower or bachelorette party and odder still that she hasn’t gotten her dress.  Perhaps try calling her and asking her if something is going on in her life that’s gotten in the way of her celebrating with you?  

There may be something going on or she may just be lazy, either way–approaching the situation in a sympathetic way that being a bridesmaid might be too much for her right now might give her the out she needs or be a gentle way of lighting a fire under her.

Best of luck.

Post # 8
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Is she having some serious financial problems or something?  Is this like her?  Has she always been flighty?  It’s so weird.

Post # 10
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@napabridekelsey: I would think that, too.  She asked before the ring was even warm on your finger yet!  I’ll admit, I’d be upset if my Bridesmaid or Best Man dodged my shower and bacholerette party.  And then the dress to top it off.  Maybe the store can call her?!  Have them do a favor for you (maybe they will, maybe they won’t).  Possibly that would get her butt in gear.

Post # 12
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1909 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@napabridekelsey: * SIGH * You’re totally right about her potential regret. Keep trying, and at some point you’ll have to let her go make her own decision or not about it. It’s sad, but you can only be responsible for your actions and not feel guilty if she misses this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. I’ll have to go back through, thanks…I joined WB in March so I have some catching up to do.

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