- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
Lets make this long story short.
FH and I are getting married in NYC in about three months. He is from England, I am from the US, and we both wanted to do this but aren’t the most financially able people at the moment. When it comes to finances so far (wedding related) FH has decided we should stay five nights instead of four and have a nicer hotel then we need. I totally get this but understand that its more money. I on the other hand have been trying to cut back and save, but realized that our package photographer isn’t so great, and found a great deal with a local one for only 100 dollars! I brougth this to FH attention tonight and he complained about me adding stuff to the budget, which I am, but I feel as if the extra day and nicer hotel added stuff to the budget as well. I wasn’t even upset that he didn’t want me to have the guy, cause I would have asked someone to gift him to us or something.. but it was that he didn’t even ask how much he is and he just dismissed is as not being a priority when it is to me. I eventually explained this to him and he said well if its that important than I should get it, but I still wasn’t satisfied (I dont know why).
What makes this worse is that I don’t understand whats upsetting me. I can get the conflicting view that I portrayed, of wanted to save money but adding a cost. I feel like its the 5 year coming out of me saying “But he got this!!”. I asked him if he was upset and he said no and kinda dismissed it.. so I’m not sure if he really is but since he didn’t say he was I’ll just assume hes not and I’m sure tomorrow will be fine.. But I don’t know if I did something wrong. I’m sure our wedding will be great, but this whole planning with no money thing is stressfull.. and not fun.