(Closed) I don’t feel like I look that bad (but I guess I do!)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I’m sorry you feel this way.  But maybe it is an opportunity to get into better shape before your wedding.  You still have a few months and that can make a huge difference.  I remember seeing myself in pictures one time and couldn’t believe it was me.  Sometimes I think it’s a wake up call.  Anyway, I’m sure you’ll look beautiful at your wedding.  Good luck I know how hard it is. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i know exactly what you mean, but keep in mind we’re often too harsh on ourselves! i’ve always been overweight and struggled with losing weight, i recently lost 30lbs and have kept it off for 2 months but still want to lose another 30, if it’s an option definitely join the gym. i didn’t think i’d like going but i love to go, especially with a friend, and i allways feel so much better after. good luck losing, i’m sure you’ll do great if you stick with it!!!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Take this as an opportunity to get closer to your Fiance over the summer! About 6 months ago the boy and I decided to go for a healthy lifestyle. We now make meal plans together, go grocery shopping together, cook healthy meals together, and exercise together. Neither of us were overweight but both of us wanted to be healthier and its working!! It is so much easier going through this lifestyle change with the boy by my side encouraging me 😀

And even if you don’t lose any weight before your wedding, I’ve never seen a confident bride that looked bad!!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Pictures do add weight on to your body frame imho, as well as tv/video.  But use this as a catalyst to start that weight loss regimen!  You can do it!  What I do is not focus on number of pounds lost, but how I feel and look!  I do have a magic number in mind for my goal, and nearing that, but not really worried about what number the almighty scale spits out.

You can do it! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think its important to keep in mind that sometimes we are our own worst critics. Whether you lose the weight or not you’re going to be beautiful on your wedding day. With that being said if its something that bothers you use this as motivation. Put that picture on your fridge motivate you to healthy choices. Set up small goals and rewards to stay motivated. You can definitely do it!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m going to be the contrarian here and suggest that you don’t need to focus on losing weight right now.  You have a lot going on and diets can be really stressful.  It’s okay to feel the way you do; a lot of us wish our bodies were different in some way or another.

I would encourage you to take small, positive steps between now and your wedding.  Don’t even think about your size.  Think about doing a few things for your health.  Two easy ones are: 1.  drink more water (less soda, diet soda, and fruit juice) and 2.  eat more fruit.  Those are two simple things you can do that might make you feel more energized and better about yourself.  You might also lose weight in the process, but that’s not the main goal. 🙂

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

I’m going to agree with beachbrideamy.

Getting healthy is important, but it’s still considered a radical concept that you can be overweight, unapologetic about it (because really, who do you owe that to?) and just as beautiful as anyone else.

I would say that before you try to change your appearance, you have to be confident with the appearance you have. Look at pictures of yourself and see what’s beautiful in them. Quit reading mass-media magazines. Look at pictures of other larger, beautiful brides. Once it becomes more “normal” to you, it will remove that shock factor every time you see your own pictures.

Once you accept yourself, you will be free of that awful diet-pressure and you’ll likely feel confident enough to do what you want to do to feel healthy, knowing you will be beautiful no matter the results.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I have the same troubles… I HATE looking at pictures of myself, it’s depressing!!  One great tip, if you want to switch to healthy eating, and you enjoy cooking… the Biggest Loser 30 day jump start book is AMAZING! Fiance and I just finshed the 30 days, and although it’s a lot of cooking, it was great!  I love 11 pounds in 30 days and Fiance lost 15… and that was just diet changes, without any changes in my exercise.  Either way keep your chin up, your Fiance loves you just the way you are, and that’s whats important.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Agree with beachbrideamy and oyster. 

First, if I judged my attractiveness level by unflattering pictures of myself… I would be a very sad Arachna.  Most pictures of myself are not very flattering – or at least I am convinced I look better than that in person.  I trust my mirror and other people much more than pics.  Maybe drag out a flattering picture or two of yourself?  And for gods sake get rid of the bad pictures!

Second, a diet while stressed at work and planning a wedding sounds terrible to me.

If you have time something like more/longer walks might make you feel more productive/better about you fitness.  Or more fruit like beachbrideamy says.

But if you don’t have time… life doesn’t end after the wedding.  You can always do that great fitness routine after the wedding.  You’ve got the rest of your life! 

For now you have a pretty big goal – make sure to enjoy it (getting married of course).

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I was the classic yo-yo dieter from age 12-23, and it was hell. I found this group called Overeaters Anonymous and it changed my life. I have been maintaining a 50 pound weight loss for about 5 years and have not binged in all that time.

There are meetings all over the world:

Newcomers

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

Ohhh picture.  I just got done talking to my sister and she told me how her and her friend were just zooming in on my face and cracking up, I had the sun in my eyes and was giving a horrible stink eye as well as some crazy hair (and unfortunately this was at a dressed up event).  I’m happy with my looks so I think you have to take pictures with a grain of salt, though I think I’ll bring some sunglasses and tame the blond fro before going out in the heat for the rest of the summer.

I disagree though with some of the other posters that say not to focus on eating healthier.  You don’t have to starve yourself but just to make a conscious effort to fill yourself up on healthier stuff and cut out some of the junk I think is always a good goal and something I always feel better for.  Throw in some arm exercizes to get some toning and you’ll look like one hot mamma for the wedding.

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