(Closed) I don’t feel like it’s my place to say anything, but I’m pretty concerned….

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I know people like this. it is a sad reality. Deep down she must know something is not right with her man. You can clearly see the signs and clues like powder on counters in the house left behind from lines. Sometimes it is easier just to push those thoughts out and see the good in a person rather than the bad. It’s really up to her to bring the topic up if she feels open enough to talk to you about something like this. I wouldn’t get involved unless they want you to be. Sometimes it’s best just to let people keep living there lives as much as it might bother you.

Post # 4
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411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think if you are really convinced that you need to say something, the best thing you could do is send Jane an anonymous letter explaining the situation. Send it in the mail from a town other than your own and write it all down. It could start some conversation between them.

Post # 5
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5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think the person that would need to be confronted would first be Jack… your Darling Husband and you should do it together, definitely not you on your own. Ultimately you would want it to be he himself to come clean and let his wife know he needs helps.

I would then make sure he knows that if it gets worse or he doesn’t get come into the open about it and seek help that you would HAVE to let Jane know… having nothing against their marraige but b/c the use of drugs has no place in a family.. where a child could get hurt or worse KILLED b/c of it being there.

I would also do ALOT of praying! That you would have the words to say and that they would be received covered in LOVE and not condemnation. That your heart to see this family stay together and grow would be the only thing seen by Jack and that strife would have NO place in the conversation, but that Jack’s eyes and heart would be open and soft and be strengthened to know that there is a way better than the way he’s been living.

Otherwise I don’t have much more to say… will definitely be praying for you and your friends 😉

Post # 7
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1566 posts
Bumble bee

I am usually an advocate of voicing your concerns in a situation like this. If you do choose to speak to Jane, I think you should be ready for her to react negatively and not be very receptive – after all, this is a hard truth to hear! Jack would also likely find out and be furious at you and your husband. If you want to avoid this, anonymous letter may be the way to go. I do think, no matter how you deliver this message, it would be helpful to Jane to learn about it, and maybe even have her existing suspicions confirmed so that the two of them can start working this out.

Post # 8
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1645 posts
Bumble bee

Wait wait WAIT. So everyone knows Jack is addicted to coke, but NO ONE HAS BOTHERED TO TELL JANE?

That’s not a secret you keep. Not. At All.

Intervention time.

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