- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
So, I’m probably overthinking this (especially considering that I’m a year out), but it’s driving me nuts. Sorry this post is so long.
I went out to try on wedding dresses this week. Honestly, I was dreading it. I have some major body image issues as well as reservations about the whole white dress thing–FI and I are pretty nontraditional, like a lot of couples these days are. But I also don’t know what else to envision myself in–I am short and pear-shaped, and there are a lot of lovely dresses out there that I don’t see working for me. I don’t have the budget to spend thousands, so my friend and I went to David’s Bridal.
It was honestly a much better experience than I expected. Usually trying on clothes is not fun for me, but some of these dresses were really figure-flattering. One of them, especially, a chiffon one with a corset back. I actually feel good about how I look in it, which is a rare occurance for me. It’s also pretty.
The problem is that I don’t feel like myself in it. I mean, I won’t feel like myself in any kind of traditional wedding dress. I’m a cardigan and scarf kind of gal. My engagement ring is an antique orange sapphire. I bristle when I hear people say that they don’t like non-white/non-traditional wedding dresses (because I have seen so many women make so many lovely choices, and I hate when people try to enforce arbitrary customs on others).
My sister and Future Mother-In-Law love the dress. But then my mom admitted to me that she was shocked I was even looking at wedding dresses. My best friend called me up last night after I sent a photo and said she loved the dress and that it looked great on, but she wasn’t sure it seemed very “me,” either.
Here’s the thing: I don’t know what would be “me.” Wedding dresses aren’t “me.” But I’m wondering if I’m just putting myself into that space to be contrary, you know? I don’t like the whole marketing industry around weddings, so I find myself resisting it in a lot of ways. But I found a dress that I feel good about my body in, and I haven’t felt that way in years.
Did other bees run into similar mixed feelings? What did you do? Can anyone post pictures of their non-traditional dress choices? Maybe it would help if I could envision the possibilities.
Cliff’s notes: Found a wedding dress that looks great on, but I don’t feel like myself in it. Don’t know where to look next.