(Closed) I don't feel safe here. I hate it: A rant.

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
3152 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

You’re describing Any major city… Can you get out of downtown? The burbs are usually cheaper and there is less violent crime. 

Post # 4
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@AquaGrey8962:  I totally understand. I say that I live “hood adjacent”. It is a college town so it isn’t like inner city ghetto but I still worry at night walking home. My alarm makes me feel better though. I have panick buttons on both sides of the house and they really do monitor it well. Perhaps if you have to move somewhere worse get a nice alamr system.

Post # 7
680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Are you in So cal? In LA?  Downtown LA is definitely not the best place to live.  Even in the nice buildings, I wouldn’t live there personally.  I live in LA and it’s not bad directly around me and my rent is reasonable.  Small apartment, but not too bad.  It’s good for now until we buy a house.  PM me if you like! 

Post # 8
81 posts
Worker bee

@AquaGrey8962:  I’m sorry you feel unsafe in your home.  I lived by myself for many, many years on the first level.  Here are a few items that I purchased to give myself peace of mind:


  • Master Lock Dual Function Door Security Bar

Security bar is designed for hinged and sliding doors to resist forced entry. Adjust from 27-1/2″ to 42″ to fit most standard doors and sliding patio doors. Top piece removes for sliding door application. Pivoting ball joint assures full contact with floor. Padded foot provides a sure grip without scratching. Security bar is made of rugged 20 gauge steel.  You place it underneath the doorknob and it locks with a key.

There are also window locks that you screw onto the tracking for opening/closing the windows to prevent opening (I believe I bought those at Wal-Mart or Target, in a 2 pack).

I also have 3 bottles of Mean Greeen Dye Pepper Spray, I keep one on the wall by my bed, 1 on the wall in the garage and 1 in my pocket when walking to/from car, to mailbox etc…. (www.foxlabs.com).

And lastly there are plug in motion sensors for around $40 (I haven’t tried these).






Post # 9
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Where in CA do you live?  I lived in a “bad” part of Philly for years and never had any trouble.  


Maybe when you look for apartments, find one that is higher up and away from a police station? 

Post # 10
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@StillAMiss:  I have the same thing! My Fiance and I got it for our old apartment when we realized we could easily break into our back door with a credit card. (The things you learn when you lock yourself out, lol.)

We live across the country in a much nicer neighborhood now, but you can never be too safe so we still use it.

Post # 11
4311 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d get a second job to save money for my safety and well being if I had to. Or hubby would. Otherwise you’re stuck like that for good. Have to change to make change.

Post # 12
7770 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I feel for you.  It is really rough on every part of you and your life to be stuck in a place you dislike, especially if you feel unsafe.  That happened to me and I was stuck for three years!  I bet there is some way to eventually problem solve this so you can be free.  I am finally!

Post # 13
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m assuming there’s plenty of public transportation if you’re near a major city. Can you live on the end of a subway line into the city? I live on the red line, in Quincy outside of Boston. I live in a WAY safer area, and I’m about an hour outside of the city.

Post # 14
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@AquaGrey8962:  i hear you. where we live is horribly dangerous too =S went out to buy breakfast a while back and couldnt…due to the dead body that had been shot several times in the head and the police surrounding it. it sucks

i dont go out alone at night and even with fi i dont go to any of the bars or anything here. but you know, one day we’re going to live somewhere way better! and so will you!

Post # 15
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

One of the cheapest, easiest ways to defend your home from intruders is to buy a very large dog dish and set it on the kitchen or dining room floor, where it can be easily seen by a peeping potential intruder, and leave some very large dog toys in plain sight where they can be seen from outside by anyone looking through a window.

Even if the bad guys don’t see an actual dog, they will not want to risk breaking into a home where they think a dog “may” live. Especially not a big dog. They’re going to move along pretty quickly.

As for when you’re outside of your home, take a self defense class at your local YMCA, or even better, take a proper boxing (not kickboxing or box-aerobics) class where you can become more confident in yourself and build the skills to protect yourself on the streets.  

You shouldn’t have to live in fear, and creating a “bad guy free zone” around yourself really helps (I should know– I live in what used to be a very bad neighborhood and is still “transitional” so I’ve had to really get the street smarts working).

Post # 16
6018 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I live on the south side of chicago. It’s not all terrible. By my house if you go about 6 blocks in either direction your ok. But any direction more than 6 blocks or so is gonna lead to trouble. My area has been kind of a hold out I guess you could say. We still have lots of families, older people, and young couples just starting out. Its a nice area for the most part if you just dont’ venture too far out. Chicago in general is a scary place right now, our homicide rate is terrifying. I understand being nervous given what you described. I second getting an alarm system and some ways to protect yourself. being proactive about it will take away some of the fear because you know you are doing things to prevent someone from actually getting near you or your home.

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