Post # 32
His ex took him to the cleaners if he was left with 150K in assets and no home after the divorce. In a way, he’s “on a budget”. Honestly in his post divorce situation and with 3 children under the age of 10 to support, I think he has no business buying a 3-carat ring right now. I don’t think the ring size has anything to do with the measure of his love for you. If you’re practical you’ll understand.
Post # 33
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@Ringblues: I don’t think that it would have been such a big deal to you had he not stated anything about his ex wife’s ring. I get that you feel jipped (I am totally ignoring the size of ring here because that is beyond my comprehension, really, size-wise and cost-wise) because of that. That being said maybe he wishes he could have bought you something nicer and that was why he talked so much about it (a very man thing to do) but he was on a budget. After all, his assets were gone and he would have had to find a place of his own to live if he did not have a second property in the town you are living in. Not to mention legal costs for the entire thing. Also, it sounds like his divorce was very contentious so your relationship will not be as good with her. Maybe try on working on your relationship with her (you will have to either way because those willbe your step kids whether you like it or not) and things should get better. Really. It will make you feel better and feel better about the ring. You don’t have to be friends but it would make your lives a lot easier (it would also make things better for your relationship with their children and your husband). You should be so lucky that you have children, a good relationship with your children’s father, and a man that loves you. Good luck.
Post # 34
Hey all! We have some duplicate threads going here so I’m going to close this one and point the discussion to the thread at this link:
Thanks to everyone who gave great advice on this one!