- 9 years ago
- Wedding: February 2010
This is SO strange to post, but here goes:
Small family. Siblings within 2 years. No extended family in the least. No babysitting. All my students were 14 and older.
I don’t understand the emotional appeal of babies. And the problem is – I’d like to, because it puts me completely out of the loop in most social situations.
I like the idea of babies, as in, I like the idea of creating another life with my FH. But… I am missing something.
I mean, I’m a Ph.D. candidate in science… I have at least 2 brain cells I can rub together and plenty of emotional depth to empathize with even the craziest situations, but I just don’t GET children. How do you explain BLUE to someone who is blind?!
At Thanksgiving, I was in a social situation where there was a mother telling us funny stories about the big dinner with all her extended family and there was a story about a 4 year old nephew who made everyone laugh because he didn’t know his grandfather’s given name. And sure, I understand the ha ha logically – he should know, but he doesn’t because he’s a kid.
But I am lacking a DEPTH of humor there, a depth of understanding as to why having a “tot running around at the holidays” is an enjoyable experience, like someone in another thread on the Bee put it.
I don’t understand why people question all us newly engaged for babies… why would our great aunts and uncles and STRANGERS want to know about our sex life and the result? Yes, we all tell ourselves that they’re making conversation, but you could find a more common denominator in the toilet! There MUST be some appeal.
Parents, can anyone shed any light on this? One of my coworkers who recently gave birth… I saw her for just 30 seconds and there was something SO different in her eyes. She is NOT the same person and I don’t know what is going on!
WHAT IS GOING ON? If it’s cuteness, is it like puppies? Because I do love puppies… 🙂
I have a feeling this is going to be one of those “you’ll understand when you have your own someday….” The problem is that I WON’T have my own UNTIL I understand. I want to really want it, you know?