(Closed) I don’t have a flower girl/ring bearer. Do I absolutely need one?

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

We’re not having them either. I don’t think they are needed.

If you want them though, you could ask your cousins!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Nope, we didn’t have either and nobody batted an eye. We just didn’t have any kids that we were exceptionally close to, so we did without.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You don’t need them if you don’t want them.

If you’re worried about someone hanging onto the rings you can either have the best man or Maid/Matron of Honor hang onto them until the ceremony or such like.

If you want to have a flower girl or ring bearer and you are close with a particular cousin or etc it should be fine to ask, but the final decision is usually up to the parents.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not having any.  My cousins aren’t coming to the wedding, my FI’s cousin is too young or too old.  Fiance is the oldest in his family and I’m the only so no nephew’s or nieces.  I have a cousin who has a kid, but she can be a stinker and I think she’s still too young to be in a wedding.

I think it’ll be fine to be without.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

No. I have been to serveral weddings last year and only 2 of them had flower girl/ring bearer. We are only having flower girls. There are no little boys in the family that I want in the wedding. ^_^

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We’re not having either. We are not having kids at the wedding.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We’re not having them either. We could come up with a ring bearer, but no flower girl, so we’re just passing.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Nope.  I think you’ll find that lots of people do not have them.  We aren’t.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We didnt have any kids at the wedding, period! No flower girl, ring bearer…nothing. No one noticed and no one cared. Its not necessary

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We don’t have them either.  The best man usually carries the rings with him until they are needed.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

No we aren’t having them either.  Like other members of the bridal party, I find it strange when people look at it like “I need to fill this role, let me see who I can get” instead of “who is important enough to me to play a role in my wedding”

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My FI’s nephews are too old to be ring bearers, and we don’t really have any other young female relatives, so we’ll probably do without both. Most of the weddings I’ve been to this past year have not had them! I don’t think they’re necessary–more of a nice way to include younger family members in the wedding party. We will probably make his nephews ushers, instead, as they are a little older.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We probably won’t have either in our wedding either.. My aunts stepdaughter has a son & daughter that are around the right age & I’ve contemplated asking them if they can be in it. But really since our wedding is small I don’t know that its that big of a deal.

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