(Closed) I don't have anyone to be my bridesmaid?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I did not want a huge bridal party especially considering I had a small wedding of about 60. We went with one person standing for each of us and I loved the simplicity of it.

Post # 4
3941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You don’t HAVE to have a bridal party at all!  I only have a small amount of close friends and considered not having one.  No one would think anything of it and it’s one less thing for you to worry about.

Post # 5
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

First of all, congrats on your upcoming marriage! Second of all, I don’t think you need anyone if noone is close to you. However, it might be a nice gesture to ask a Father-In-Law to be an attendant. On other countries, as well, a bridal party maynot be traditional, include just children, or just one other attendant. In European countries particularly, wedding are way more low key than in the U.S.

Best of luck to you!

Post # 7
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Are you close with your FI’s sister? Or at least friendly-like that you can use this experience of her standing beside you as a bonding method?

It would look odd, I think, for you to have no one beside you with your Fiance having three with him, and I think if your FSIL(s) might make a good addition.

Post # 8
8414 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@redorchid86:  Many get married without  a bridal party. I am only having my sister as my moh for our dw in st Thomas. Don’t feel like you have to have one just to have one…. I’d much rather not have a bridesmaid that just to pick someone just for the sake of having someone. Just think of it as one less thing to deal with in wedding planning Wink

Post # 10
8 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m lucky in that I’ve got four sisters (and one sister-in-law) to be my bridesmaids, but I also asked my fiance’s two sisters.  I’m friendly with them and I definitely wanted them to feel like they were part of the show.  So if I were you, I wouldn’t feel badly about asking his sisters.  Also, do you have any close guy friends?  My “maid of honor” is a guy and I’m distinguishing him from the groom’s side by having him wear a vest of the same color as my girls’ dresses (the other guys will wear another color).  When I was his “best man,” I wore a black dress of the same design as the BMs’ coral dresses and I thought it looked really nice.

Or what about asking your mom?  If I didn’t have others for this part, I’d definitely ask my mom.  Your BMs don’t have to be your age…I have a few cousins and aunts who I’d ask, too, if I didn’t already have such a big group.  Good luck!

Post # 11
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@redorchid86:  While it may not be traditional, but how about your Mom? I had a friend who’s Fiance asked his uncle who raised him as his son to be his best man.

Post # 12
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2005

I only plan on having my sister as maid of honor. No one else. I’ve heard of peo,e having their mothers stand by there side like a maid of honor?

I wouldn’t even worry about bridesmaids =]

Post # 13
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think asking the sisters in this scenario is a good idea.  It will even out the sides a bit and I’m sure that even if they aren’t super close they will be happy to participate.  I know for my family it meant a lot to have the siblings involved even though neither of us are super close to our respective brothers or sisters.

Post # 14
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would ask his sisters/female relatives.  It will give you a chance to get to know them, and I’m sure they would be flattered.  I think I would feel better with someone standing up there with me, even if I hadn’t known them that long.  I don’t think its going to make you look like you don’t have friends.  Peope understand that its pricey to travel.  I would just assume the people you knew in the states couldn’t afford a European trip at the time.

Post # 15
1468 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would either ask his sister, or not have a bridaly party, have an intimate ceremony where its just the two of you standing up at the alter 🙂 Nothing wrong with that!!!!! 

Post # 16
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

DH’s brother stood with us as his Best Man, and I didn’t ask anyone (no sibs), so we only had him up there for our ceremony. DH also has three very good friends who could have been groomsmen if we had them, but we asked them to be ushers instead — they still were “honored” but they didn’t stand with us. We don’t regret the decision at all, and were far happier without a Bridal Party.

Could you ask your DH to do the same with his guys? They could still make a speech, walk in the processional, etc. but they’d simply sit in the front row rather than stand. That way, your intimate ceremony is just the two of you, and you won’t feel unusual with no MOH/BM.

Also, FWIW, I think it’s worse to ask people you don’t really want to stand up with you than to have no Bridal Party at all. Why bother just for appearances?

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