(Closed) I don’t have enough friends to be my bridesmaids!

posted 12 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

They really dont have to match but maybe I am saying that just because I have 4 and the hubby was struggling to get even 3. I am sure no one at your wedding is going to look at your wedding party and go “oh she must not have any friends”

Post # 18
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I can totally relate to your situation, there are only a few people that I am that close to or will definitely be in the future due to moving around a lot.  Facebook has been really helpful for me to get back in touch with old friends.  We limited our party to 3 each, to make the decisions easier.  I have a brother and he has a sister, and they will both be standing up with us.  I was definitely going to have my brother stand up on my side if one of my girls couldn’t make it. 

Post # 19
2181 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

You definitely don’t have to have equal numbers! Don’t worry about it – it’ll look fine!

Post # 20
38 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

My FH and I are having the exact opposite problem! He doesn’t have enough people to invite to be groomsmen. Do you think it would be appropriate to have his sister stand up on his side?

Post # 21
3952 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

NO stressing allowed!

How about having two hot groomsmen escorting one gorgeous bm down the aisle?


Post # 22
21 posts
  • Wedding: January 2011

Yeah I definitely wouldn’t stress – we have sort of the opposite situation where I have a couple more than Fiance.  So, I’m betting we go the uneven route.  I was just talking to a good friend of mine who asked a girl to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and hasn’t actually talked to her since the wedding (and she got married 3 years ago)… so needless to say she looks back at her pics and wishes she had just gone with uneven numbers.  I definitely agree with the suggestion of thinking about who you want to look back and remember as being there 5, 10, 20 years from now.

Post # 23
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Another comment/thought…some people have no bridal party whatsoever. This is definitely a possibility if you’d rather keep it small and just not have bridesmaids and groomsmen. The idea of having a bridal party is to honor those you are close to, not to fill in spaces with people who don’t mean much to you. So instead of running around asking anyone you can to fill the spot, either have just none or 1 or 2 or however many you feel you’d like to honor.

Post # 24
10 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

My bro was my Maid/Matron of Honor, so you can totally have guys stand up with you! Of course, he took a bit of ribbing from friends about being a bridesmaid, but it was great to have him there with me.

Post # 25
1404 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Did your Fiance already ask all those guys to be GM?  If not, maybe 3 of them could be ushers instead?  Or have some other role in the wedding?  That way there will only be 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 3 Groomsmen.  


Otherwise, I wouldn’t worry too much about there being uneven sides.  It really doesn’t matter that much!

Post # 26
7 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

I understand how you feel, we both have brothers so my Fiance choose them and still would like to choose a friend.  And I really don’t have that many close friends.  But I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 27
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m in the same boat.  Instead of making things even, I have 6 groomsmen and 3 bridesmaids and couldn’t be happier.  Who cares about an uneven party?  Choose who you want to choose, not just to fill up your bridal party.

Post # 28
212 posts
Helper bee


If your Fiance has 4 GMs and you don’t have any girlfriends, what about just having two of his guys stand on your side (for symmetry purposes)?

I agree that it’s possible that those girls are weirded out that you are asking them to be in your wedding if you’ve just met them!

Post # 29
2 posts
  • Wedding: April 2011

I have it just the opposite. I have a huge family and 4 best friends. Fiance doesnt have too many.. DOnt just ask people to ask people… Have the girls walk down alone… back up with 2 guys and thats that! dont stress!!! : )

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