Post # 1
Fiance chose to have a best man and I chose to have a moh and we have a flowergirl and ring bearer … I wonder if I can like … hire them? Lol. What do the ushers do anyway?
I have no clue what’s going on. Should I tell my church and ask them what they suggest?
Post # 3
I think ushers usually help/direct people to their seats. Are you doing “sides” in your church? If so, ushers would probably be a good idea. Do you have brothers or cousins or friends you could ask?
Post # 4
You don’t need ushers. Basically they are there to escort guests to their seats. I’ve been to weddings with no ushers and its fine – your guests will find their way to the seats. I wouldn’t spend money to hire ushers. No one will think twice about them being there.
Post # 5
ushers are to direct people to their seats at the ceremony. if you’re not having a big wedding and/or you’re not fussed about where people sit (specific sides, etc) i don’t think you need them. we’re not doing that either. we’re trusting our guests to be adults and seat themselves. we might block the 1st 2 rows for immediate family tho (but i think people generally know the protocol)
Post # 6
I’m not having ushers or groomsman either. I’m having a Man of Honour, my fiance is having a Best Man and we’re having a flower girl. The coordinator at our venue told us she direct people to their seats. I’m also hiring another DOC and they will be directing people to their seats as well. I think I recall you mention you have a DOC, have you asked her?
Post # 7
I genuinely wouldn’t worry about it – again, I’ve been to weddings without ushers and we all managed to find somewhere to sit, and actually did not think about the fact that ushers were absent until I read your post now and sat to think about it. I also have never been to a wedding where they did the “sides” thing – if you’re going that route, you could enlist the help of a friend to just point the way and let everyone find their own seat. nybride09 is right – you might want to place some reserved signs on the couple of rows where your bridal party/immediate family will be.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t worry about it either… at the least, if you want to have the first few pews reserved for specific family members (parents, grandparents, etc) you can always put a “reserved” sign and let those people know beforehand that they should sit there.
Most people know which side of the church to sit on (and if they don’t, is it really that big a deal?), and you can always have any programs you might have in a basket neat the entrance.
If you are concerned with having guests “ushered” in you could always ask close family or friends to do the job for you. Just ask them to arrive early enough to be there for when the church “opens” for your guests.