Post # 1
So I have been having this problem for sometime now..How do you tell your best friend she is no longer your Maid/Matron of Honor. Well I did today and I think I feels awful. This all started a while back when I got engaged my first thought was who was going to be my MOH? Of course I said my sister we were really close until she found a boyfriend who was no good for her and we grew apart. we rarely spoke she never came to family gatherings because she was so into him she never had time for anything else. So I decided I was going to ask my Best friend if she could be my Maid/Matron of Honor and she agreed she knew the reason as to why I decided to change my mind. But recently me and my sister have been getting along great and I really want her in my wedding I dont want to look back and regret not having her a part of my wedding….So I told my Best friend that I decided I wanted her to be my matron of honor and my sister my Maid/Matron of Honor and I could tell she was upset. She kept telling me she wasnt mad but she ended the conversation with well Stay in touch and Be safe..Like really whats tnat about I just stated I wanted them both to be a part of my special day…so what do you guys think I should do. should I apologize but I dont see what i really did wrong? was I wrong?
Post # 3
I am not sure why that would upset her she is still a something of honor. I don’t think what you did was wrong and I think she will come around.
Post # 4
I think that sounds fine to me are they the same: Since the MAID OF HONOR is unmarried and The MATRON is married?
I see nothing wrong with it. But if it helps you can explain what you said ‘I dont want to look back and regret not having her a part of my wedding‘ so she can see the sincerity and importance of your choice.
Post # 5
Matron of honor just means a maid of honor who is married. If you’re calling your friend matron of honor and your sister maid of honor, your friend hasn’t been demoted. Or am i not understanding?
Post # 6
I told her matron honor means your married but in our convo she just said no just let your sister be your Maid/Matron of Honor. Me and her used to work together and we have been friends for some years now. She recently moved jobs and we dont see each other as often anymore I try to call her and text every chance I get but I have been so busy with wedding stuff. Idk maybe I am just looking to into it.
Post # 7
so your sister was Maid/Matron of Honor then not Maid/Matron of Honor and now Maid/Matron of Honor again. your friend in the meantime was not Maid/Matron of Honor then made Maid/Matron of Honor and now you want 2 MOHs
maybe you should not make too many decision changes for a little while because it can be a bit frustrating to those around you
Post # 8
so you have two? its not like you kicked her out right? you just added another MOH? As long as you dint kick her out I think it should be fine to add another one!
Post # 9
@Future Mrs K: yes I have two well my friend didnt necessarly say yes…