Post # 1
Wedding’s in September. Fiance really wants dates confirmed as soon as possible for wedding related events like our Jack & Jill and wedding shower. I can understand that he jsut wants to have dates confirmed, but it just seem so early in the game! I think he’s getting some slack from his mom and sisters about when things are happening, so in turn he’s getting more frustrated. Which puts stress on me 🙁
Thing is, I’m not sure how much involvement Fiance and I are suppose to have when it comes to events like J & J, Bachlor(ette) parties, and wedding showers. The organizing for the latter will be mostly coming from my side (my Maid/Matron of Honor, my brother’s wife, and my mom), and I don’t want to seem like we’re pushing for them to get started on this. Doesn’t that defeat the purpose of letting them do something for us?
But I don’t know how to say this to Fiance without making it seem like I’m trying to postpone things. And I don’t want to bring up his mom and sisters ’cause that will just make him more frustrated.
What do I do? 🙁
Post # 3
Do you know who is planning these things for you?
In my experience (both as a bridesmaid and now as a bride), the people who want to throw these things approach you and ask if you’d like them to throw a shower, jack and jill, whatever and then ask when you’re able to be available…you give dates, they pick one. I can see them asking who you’d like to be there, but really other then that, I don’t think that it’s up to you to figure all this out.
Do you know why he’s getting so worried about this now?
Post # 4
Does he have a lot of Out of Town people he needs to coordinate for these things? Honestly, and don’t kill me for this, but September isn’t really that far away in the grand scheme of event planning. I know I told my Maid/Matron of Honor to get started planning the bachelorette EARLY (like, last July) because I’ve got girls all over the place and it’s really hard to nail down a weekend that works for a lot of different people. Granted, the people actually hosting this stuff should be getting started with the organizing, but a little prodding can’t help. People need to plan for things ahead of time. I know if I got an email saying “Hey we’re going to throw X event this month what weekends work for you?” chances are I would already have plans for 3 out of 4 weekends already, and what are the chances that the 1 weekend I don’t have plans works for everyone else? Just something to think about.
Post # 5
Have you set the exact date yet? What exactly do you need advice on?
Post # 6
Well I’d tell him to contact the people planning it. You guys aren’t supposed to be involved with the planning, technically. So he or his family can defer to whoever it is in charge to get a better understanding.