(Closed) I don’t know how to make everyone happy…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Do you know who is planning these things for you?

In my experience (both as a bridesmaid and now as a bride), the people who want to throw these things approach you and ask if you’d like them to throw a shower, jack and jill, whatever and then ask when you’re able to be available…you give dates, they pick one.  I can see them asking who you’d like to be there, but really other then that, I don’t think that it’s up to you to figure all this out.

Do you know why he’s getting so worried about this now?

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Does he have a lot of Out of Town people he needs to coordinate for these things? Honestly, and don’t kill me for this, but September isn’t really that far away in the grand scheme of event planning. I know I told my Maid/Matron of Honor to get started planning the bachelorette EARLY (like, last July) because I’ve got girls all over the place and it’s really hard to nail down a weekend that works for a lot of different people. Granted, the people actually hosting this stuff should be getting started with the organizing, but a little prodding can’t help. People need to plan for things ahead of time. I know if I got an email saying “Hey we’re going to throw X event this month what weekends work for you?” chances are I would already have plans for 3 out of 4 weekends already, and what are the chances that the 1 weekend I don’t have plans works for everyone else? Just something to think about.

Post # 5
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1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Have you set the exact date yet? What exactly do you need advice on?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well I’d tell him to contact the people planning it.  You guys aren’t supposed to be involved with the planning, technically.  So he or his family can defer to whoever it is in charge to get a better understanding. 

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