Post # 1
So I got engaged about a month ago and my fiance and I are very excited! We are both super reserved people who don’t like attention being on us and we want something super simple for a wedding. We are both thinking that we want to “elope” and go away for a weekend and get married just the two of us. We don’t want the wedding to be a secret though, I would feel bad doing that. We already have a place reserved for an “after wedding” get-together BBQ type thing so we would be including our family and friends in some way, we just want the ceremony to be just the two of us.
The problem is, I’m having a hard time telling people this. Everyone’s been asking about our plans and I just say we haven’t decided anything yet because I feel like I would be disappointing people by saying we just want it to be the two of us at the ceremony. I feel like people would frown upon what we want to do. I’m also getting frustrated because my mom is telling me who I have to invite and it’s stressing me out.
I just want to tell my family and friends that we want to do something just the two of us but I feel like I can’t. Has anyone done anything like what I want to do? How did you tell your family and friends what your plans were? Any tips would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks in advance 🙂
Post # 2
The whole thing with eloping is that you don’t tell anyone until after you do it.
So just go! Elope! Then throw a reception after.
Post # 3
I didn’t read the post, but that’s the point of elopment – you don’t have to tell anyone. You just come back like “hey, y’all I’m married!”
Post # 4
Don’t tell anyone. Just do it. That’s what we did.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
As others have stated don’t tell anyone, just do it and have your casual get together as planned. That was the case with my first marriage and it was a million times easier than the crap of wedding planning and opinions I’m dealing with now. We had a ceremony that didn’t require witnesses, contacted less than 15 people individually and said we’d love if they could join us for a dinner celebration then met at the restaurant. No reservations, contracts or complications. Fantastic day.
Post # 6
My fiancé and I are eloping. Like you, we felt we had to tell people. So we did. It’s been a mixed bag. Some have been very supportive (and relieved, because of the expensive of them traveling) and others have been awful. If I was doing it all over again we would definitely elope without telling them and then reveal it afterwards. We aren’t having a celebration after either – just going on honeymoon.
Post # 7
I would tell people that your wedding plans are still Up in the air”. Go to Hawaii and then come back and tell people.
Post # 8
We just told everyone “the wedding itself doesn’t mean anything to us, we just want to be married, so we are going to Las Vegas” an that was that! The ones who truly love us were supportive and understanding of our wishes and just wanted us to be married and happy! Zero regrets doing it the way we did either.
Post # 9
holly10 : If you tell anyone, you are not eloping. You would be having a private wedding. If you want a reception once you get home, plan one! Have the wedding you want. 🙂