I don't know if I should even propose anymore. HELP ME!

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Its a beautiful ring. If she doesn’t love it or it isn’t practical for her you can always return it or exchange it for something else. My money is on that she will love it!

Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper

It’s a gorgeous ring in a perfectly uncontroversial (and lovely!) setting. Unless your gf specifically mentioned a hatred of diamonds or gave you other specific advice about her choice of e-ring that you blatantly disregarded I cannot imagine her taking issue with this, certainly not rejecting your proposal on account of it! If she does, she’s not the girl for you anyway!

Post # 18
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Busy bee

In my opinion, the ring you chose is perfection! It is gorgeous! And you put so much thought into it 🙂 If it isn’t her style, give her the option to exchange.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

****Sorry if I sounded discouraging.  I want to reiterate that I really love that style of engagement ring (my Pinterest is full of rings that look just like yours).  

I think it is also relatively classic and most girls would agree that it is beautiful.  

No girl in her right mind would turn down an engagement Bc she didn’t like the ring btw.  Especially when you went through all the work to add an inscription and a photo shoot!!  The fact that you even made this post I think is very sweet.

Small functional issues like I mentioned can be worked out later if they even need to be.  I wouldn’t change a thing about my ring and maybe it was just my clumsiness that caused the bending.

 

Relax & congratulations : )

 

ETA- in my opinion a thin hand is the BEST way to make a center stone “pop”

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I would go ahead and propose with it because it is your girlfriend who is going to receive the ring, not your mom or sister. If you guys had talked about style already and your initial thought was that she will love the ring, then I think you should go with your gut instinct. If for some reason, she ends up not liking the ring then you could exchange it for something else. 

She will not say no regardless if the ring is her style, because she loves you.

With that being said, I really love the ring. I like the thin band and the diamond is beautiful!

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper

It’s a classic lovely ring and you probably got a good deal on blue Nile compared to some stores. If she wants more ornate it’s the perfect ring to add stackers to. If she likes simple then a beautiful band will be perfection. 

Ok – if it were me I’d have dropped on the colour to go up in carat and I’d have done platinum instead of white gold purely from a maintainance point of view. You could also go plain setting and put that money into the diamond too. 

BUT this is all just ‘stuff’. You’ve picked something really classic. I can’t see how anyone wouldn’t like it. If we thought it was rather niche we’d be telling you! 

Did you know what your girlfriend liked in e-ring design? 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I think the ring is beautiful, but I do understand why it could be seen as too thin or small. Does your Girlfriend have big hands/fingers or small hands/finders? In my case, my fingers are really thin and small, so thicker rings look really odd on them; I believe the opposite could also happen (thick fingers with thin rings). In any case, my Darling Husband proposed with a righ that was too wide for my taste/finger, but I still loved it and wear it everyday -because I know how much effort he gave into chosing it, and how he felt it was the perfect ring to propose to me.

On the side note (I probably shouldn’t point this out… Oh, well!), if the engraved text literaly says “Amor di mi vida”, then it has a typo mistake -it should be de instead of di. Now, don’t worry about this, as it can come off as cute, quirck and funny. Think about it as the spanish version of “Luve of my Life” 🙂

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

montrealbride2017 :  I agree. Plus its D color AND VS2. D color is colorless. Doesn’t get any brighter than that. Mine is G color and I am happy! So D color and a 0.8ct size Id say is a great size. don’t exchange it. Propose. Don’t listen to your mother. 

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think it’s beautiful! you know your girlfriend better than they do. Let us know how it goes!

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Please don’t feel disheartened.  I’m sure your girlfriend will love the ring because you chose it for her and put a lot of thought into it.  My fiance gave me a similar ring and I wouldn’t change it for the world, especially since he picked it out himself (not his mom or sister).  Have faith in your lady, I’m sure she won’t base her acceptance of your proposal on what the ring looks like. And if its not her style, you can go together to exchange it.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee

it’s gorgeous!

Post # 28
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Sugar bee

It’s beautiful!! And like someone previously said, if she says no to you because of the ring, then she’s probably not the one you want anyway!!

If you’re worried about it, make sure you let her know she can exchange it if she’s not happy with the size, design, etc.

Post # 29
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Newbee

dude- her saying yes should NOTHING to do with the ring.

would you really want to marry a girl who only says yes bc of the ring? the ring is a thing – the marriage is a relationship. let her know she can exchange the ring if it isnt her style. 

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