(Closed) I don't know if I want to keep my dog.

posted 7 years ago in Pets
Post # 31
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

My first dog I owned as an adult was my baby- I loved that dog intensely! When he died I was devastated. But we took the plunge and adopted a  dog from the Humane society. Although I liked the new dog, it took a while to really fall in love with him- a good 9 months maybe. Now, 6 years later we love him to pieces and we’re getting sad he’s getting old. I’d say give it some more time!

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

What a cutie!! I say you keep him. He needs the love and you and Fiance can give it to him. Fiance and I adopted a dog 3 years ago. We decided it was a great idea because it would help with my depression and anxiety and we really wanted another dog around since we both left our homes with our family dogs. When we first got her she was very shy, scared and angry. She took to Fiance right away and it took her even longer to warm up to me. Sometimes I felt like she downright hated me and was causing trouble in our relationship. Low and behold she came around and now I could never live without her. She is my everything.

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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Brickette:  I think you’re doing a wonderful thing. I don’t know if you should keep him. If he truly needs another doggy companion, that’s a huge commitment. How is it for you to have a second dog around, does that work with your living space/finances etc. ? You seem to have a good heart and I support whatever decision you make.

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It really sounds like you just aren’t ready, and that is totally ok. Leroy could be the most wonderful perfect dog, but your heart just hasn’t finished healing yet….and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Help Leroy to find w family that will love him like you guys do. When we got our dog from his foster family I told her I could never do that bc I’d keep all the dogs. And she told me “no you wouldn’t. ..because in a year I get to help tons of dogs find their forever families.  If I just adopted I could only help one”.

Maybe one day you’ll be ready for a new dog to adopt, but in the meantime all the props to you for giving him a loving home!

Post # 39
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Bumble bee

I’ll admit when I opened this post I was expecting to be upset at another pet owner just wanting to give their dog away.. but I totally feel for you.  First, you are a really kind person to take him in when he was so close to being put down.  Second, my little dog is only a few years old but I already just can’t imagine ever loving another dog like him when he leaves us some day so I can see how you would have mixed feelings.  It sounds like maybe it was just too soon for you to open your heart up again to another dog. I think what you guys are doing is the best thing. Just keeping him happy and healthy and when the time comes and someone shows interest maybe that will make things clearer to you what you want.  Relief that he could have his real forever home or make you realize you don’t want to loose him and want to adopt him. It does complicate things since your husband is growing more attatched than you but your feelings could really catch up. He seems like such a sweet dog from what you described. Good luck! 

Post # 40
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Busy bee

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Brickette:  I dont have anything to say but what a sweet, cute, crazy happy smile he has!!! Hahah i love it!

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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Brickette:  I got a second dog in December to keep my first dog busy. my first dog has SO much energy, so a second dog was needed to get first dog to stop pestering us so much. 

2 months in, I still wasn’t really into the new dog. He was bigger and smellier than the first. He wasn’t as smart,  And I thought I was having allergic reactions to him. 

Turns out he wasn’t causing my reactions, something else was. 

But then, he cut his neck and was bleeding. Fiance and I rushed him to hospital and cuddled him and comforted him. When we were through the whole hospital visit, I felt so much closer to him. I feel like he’s part of the family now and I love him. 

The second dog issue is a problem, but I think it just takes time to warm up to the new dog. I hope you won’t give up on him 🙂 

also, pet insurance is excellent! 

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

He is beautiful 

keep him

 

Post # 43
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Helper bee

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Brickette:  Honey, it’s only been half a year since you lost your fur baby. They say a month to grieve for each year of a close relationship is a good rule of thumb. You’re not even out of that estimated grieving window yet. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You have a heart full of love and I’m sure you can warm to Leroy in time. You just might still be hurting and afraid as a result. That said, two dogs is a big commitment, and it’s kinder to decline than to burn yourself out with something that is too much to reasonably handle. Take your time and good luck with whatever you decide.

Post # 44
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Worker bee

OMG I love your dog already! I hope you choose to love and accept him. With training, he will get better, and he likely would do anything to please you. No dog will elver compare to your last dog 🙂 It will be different. I had a great pyrenees for 12 years (lost to cancer) and then adopted a catahoula shortly after. They are totally different, and the relationship is so different but I have so much love for Luna, my catahoula. Don’t give up! Best of luck!

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