Post # 1
I have recently gotten engaged and I am soooo excited about it. I have been day dreaming about planning stuff and going dress shopping for years. Now that I am actually engaged I am almost in shock and I don’t know what to do. I cannot decide weather to have a destination wedding or to stay here and have a small get together. My fiance is very low key and he doesn’t want anything big. Which I am ok with but I told my mom and she has this idea about inviting all my aunts and uncles and it is just soo stressful. She wants to help out financially but we don’t want her to because his parents and my dad are not in the best position to.
Going away would solve the problem of a guest list because it would be a come if you want type of thing. But his parents won’t come. The refuse to fly. So then we were debating doing a small thing in the rocky mountains but for the price of that we might as well just fly somewhere which takes me back to the parent thing. I almost to the point of ‘lets just go down to city hall!!”
All I know for sure is I want to marry the man of my dreams in a big and beautiful dress.
I am not looking for an answer (because every one I have talked to tells me do what you want but the key is I do not know what I want) I am just wondering: How did you decide what to do?
Post # 3
If that’s your actual date, you’ve got plenty of time. You do not have to decide anything right now. Take some time to enjoy being engaged!
And while you’re enjoying your new relationship status, look through wedding blogs, magazines, photographers’ online portfolios and just mark the things that you see that make you go “ooh, that’s neat” or “I like that”. After a while you’ll start to notice trends in what you’re bookmarking and that will help you decide on what you want for your wedding.
Post # 4
That’s exactly how I feel! Ha Ha. It’s so stressful not knowing what to do and our date is creeping up. How long have you been engaged?
Post # 5
@krystilainne: Congrats on your engagement!
Fiance and I had over a 2 year engagement so we gave it a lot of thought. FI wanted a destination wedding (he’s very shy, does not like attention on him, etc.) I wanted everyone to come. It ended up that we’re having our wedding in Calgary, but most of my family/friends are coming from Vancouver, where I grew up so it’s a semi destination (not that Calgary is a hot spot in October lol) for most people.
I’m a month and a half away from the wedding and I’m STILL trying to figure out some of the smaller details! I kept changing my mind because of the bee, I’d find new, cute ideas that I would have never thought of.
I suggest talking with your Fiance, writing down a list of what’s most important to both of you to have at your wedding, and go from there. Check out ideas on the bee, and other websites and eventually, you’ll figure it out!!!
Post # 6
I just want to be married. LOL! We are going to Vegas, at first it was going to be just the two of us. That’s what I wanted. We were going to pull a “Surprise!” when we got back and then have a reception type thing locally. That’s what I wanted. I am in the same boat as your Fiance, my parents can’t travel.
Soo, word gets out about this to FI’s family. So now it’s a 20 guest ordeal that we spent money on. I got stressed out about money because obviously paying for the wedding AND having spending money to have fun with out there was something we had to really work on since our original plans blew up and this had to be planned in about 3 months.
So FI’s family is coming. We have the wedding paid for, but we are about $1,000 short of the money we wanted to have when we get there to have fun and of course make sure we can buy all the professional pictures we can! (Our package at the chapel includes 20 ceremony photos, but the professional posed ones we have to buy seperatly and I want all of them! LOL)
As we get closer, I am excited.. don’t get me wrong. But I just want to be married! Nobody I am close with is coming 🙁 None of my friends or family.
So I am nervous I am going to feel like the outcast. And sometimes I just get a little irritated cause they are taking Fiance out the night before the wedding, won’t tell him what they are planned even though we agreed no strip clubs. And he told them, but really are they going to listen?
Sometimes I just wish it was just the two of us again!
Post # 7
We got engaged and it was turning into a pain in the ass. The dress would be expensive, everyone had opinions, it was just stress. I like parties, but this was just giving me a headache.
In the end I thought “Do I want to be married? Or do I want to have a gigantic party and go into debt?” I wanted to be married. And married we were, on a gorgeous Fall day. For $35.00 and it was just fine.
Post # 9
@KatyElle: Love this. I want to do this so badly.
Post # 10
We got engaged August 21st 2011. I wanted to do it in May 2012 but it is to soon and I started stressing out and I couldn’t sleep so I just picked a random day. I have no Idea when out actual date is going to be. Every time I think I get close to picking a day some one has something to say about it. :S
Post # 11
That is almost the point I have reached. I cannot keep anyone happy and it is all just a huge pain in the butt. The stress of it is great for helping me lose weight, but that is about all it is good for.