Post # 1
So, our trip to England is in 3 days. To say I was excited would be an understatement. J and I have been gathering things for our trip, and we stopped at the mall (where we looked at rings). I asked J what type of financing plans the jewellery store had. I was curious that’s all. I figured I had a right to ask, since we both want to get married, right? Was I wrong? Anyhoo…
His answer was: “I’m not telling you. That’s something you’re not supposed to know!” I said: “Bah, you have no idea, do you”. It was a very playful conversation. He put his arm around me and just said: “I’m not telling you. This is MY job”.
I’m not really sure what to think of his response. The majority of me feels like yes, he has purchased something and really doesn’t wanna tell me. But then there’s a teeny tiny part of me feels like he hasn’t purchased anything and has no clue about their plans. Am I over analyzing? Probably. It’s what I do best. I like problem solving and trying to figure things out, lol. I over-think all the time. I admit it.
Did your guy tell you about financing plans, etc.? Just curious if it’s a common thing.
Post # 3
I think its just best to assume he hasn’t bought anything yet, just so you don’t end of dissappointed.
Post # 4
@GwenvonD: I finally signed up after lurking for so long. Gwen, I’ve followed your story ever since I’ve come across this site after my own waiting troubles. This post has made me sign up so I can finally respond! Quick story for me… We’ve been together just over 3 years now and have lived together most of that time. He was moved in with me after a month officially. Anyway… Finally in April ’11, I got the courage to bring it up again with a picture from the Artcarved collection called “Gossimer”. When I first was ready to bring it up, I had received a txt from one of my friends telling me that she was engaged… I then sunk into a hole because I thought he would’ve figured I was upset over that and brought it up because of her, when in fact that wasn’t the case. So the next day I brought it up. I was so floored by his response that I couldn’t sleep. The next day I called the jeweler and set up an appointment for 3 weeks out. I didn’t know how excited he was until I got home from work and he was clean shaven (he had been on vacation for a few weeks) and all dressed up. I told him I couldn’t take the smile off my face and that I was excited. HE said he he was excited too, and excited for US… That made my day. (wasn’t this supposed to be a shorter story???lol) Anyway, we got to the jeweler and he asked if I had brought the picture… I said “Oh, that went way out the window… we are starting over!… He put rings on me that I hated, liked and loved. He had a knack for this like nobody I’ve ever known. The one I ended up with is very similar to the “gossimer” style, so I guess I have a good eye for it too!
Onto the financing part… The jeweler took a trade and gave us a credit from my moms diamond and is letting us pay for it as we can. Since it is being made still, we are at 0%… Of course, we’ve had joint checking for a year now so I’m the one making the payments since I handle all of the bills. So yes, I know all about the financing, cost and everything. I have no problems with this part since we are going to be married and it is something that we will both have a benefit from. The whole experience was awesome and I can’t wait to wear it… Now the serious waiting is on, and I can’t take it… 🙂
Post # 5
I’ve also been following your posts in the waiting boards and I have to agree with SO. It’s HIS job to do that part. Just let him do his thing. He is more than aware of your desire to get engaged soon. I know it’s killing you and you are over-analyzing everything, but now is the time that you have to sit back and let it happen. The more you try to figure out the details, the more you might be delaying your own engagement. Think about it, if he knows you know something, he might have to rework his plans to try to throw you off, thus adding more time! I know you probably want to keep track of the progress after the infamous camera incident (I was disappointed too!!) but try your best to trust that he’ll do the right thing!
Post # 6
@Koala Bear: this.
I would go with what Koala Bear so you dont set yourself up for disappointment , although my fingers are crossed for you 🙂
Post # 7
I too have been following. I am crossing my fingers for you, but again, don’t get your hopes up too high. Keep it cool!
Post # 8
@luli29: Will do. Not getting my hopes up too much. P.S.~ Love your avatar!
Post # 9
It sounds like he has already come to the financing part and doesn’t want you to start getting involved as it would ruin his plans!
Unfortunately at this stage there is nothing us waiting ladies can do. The ring purchase/paying for part is the thing he will be in control of, and for 99% of the time we will not see that ring or know when its paid for or any details like that, until they propose.
Wishing you that the proposal is on it’s way soon, but I agree with PP, assume there is no ring for now to avoid dissapointment in case he hasn’t planned for your proposal to happen on this trip
Post # 10
Got my fingers crossed for you Gwen!! Its a good sign that he doesnt want to talk about it anymore. I say, just let him be now. Enjoy your trip overseas and if it doesnt happen on the trip, dont despair either!
Post # 11
According to my dad, their golf game went well. REALLY well *wink wink* (in his exact words). I don’t know the details, and I don’t want to know. But all my mom told me was that a deposit had been made on a ring. That’s all I want to know.
Now I wait… More, lol
Post # 12
And yes, I love Gwen! I’m an ND fan for life!
Post # 13
I didn’t know but I was there when he called the store to have them put the ring onto his credit card. Apparently he had it on hold.