(Closed) I don't know what to do?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think its fair to ask him not to text her. But remember that he can’t control what she says and does, so try not to be mad at him for that.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Bazinga:  I would mention it to him. I would flip out too. “Hey Hun” is not okay in my books.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

First, it is OF UTMOST IMPORTANCE you remain calm in your conversation with him.  And you MUST have a conversation with him.  Sit him down and tell him that you glanced over his shoulder and happened to see the text.  Say that you did say anythign at the time because you didnt want to make a scene but it is really bothering you. you understand they have a friendship but you think that because she is married and he has you, this is behavior is disrepsectful to both partners.  Emphasize how you are not telling him he cants have female friends or coworkers as friends, but those relationships should be friendly and not affectionate…and “hun” is certainly affectionate.

 

See what he says.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

He can’t control what she says or does. He didn’t text her back so I think it’s a non-issue.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Some people just talk like that.  Lots of people call everyone things like hun, or sweetie, or whatever.  It doesn’t necessarily mean she’s trying to steal him.

And if he didn’t even message her back, I don’t get what you have to freak out at him about?  He hasn’t done anything wrong.  Let it go.  You’re going to start something over nothing.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

maybe she just calls very one hun.. i know i do. :s

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@1stRosie:   I agree with this.  By all means ask him about the text, but try to stay calm since he didn’t do anything wrong.  Chances are this woman annoys him, too.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Maybe she just calls everyone ‘hun’.. I know I do. :s

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have to agree since he didn’t text her back I would not say a word. I am the type of person even though married I call men and women hun. It is just something I say.  I believe you are going to just stir up more trouble than it’s worth if you say something.

Post # 13
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Newbee

Let him know that this upsets you very much and that this is not ok. Obviously you can’t directly control what this woman does but it wouldn’t hurt to ask your SO to tell her to quit it and that it is no longer and never was ok for her to send these messages. Hope everything works out for you!

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Some people just don’t know the proper behavior when addressing other people. It is disrespectful and sometimes demeaning or derogatory to refer to everyone as “Hun”.

But your SO is not responsible for her behavior. I think this is your problem, not his. I would not bring it up. The reality is that he could ask her not to text him, but he really can’t stop her.

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