sorry..breaking it down may be easier to read.
So after that he told me he is no longer in contact with her.
After the incident with my parents telling him off, It became increasingly difficult to meet up with him becuse my parents were keeping strict eye on me and he claimed that he is going to start up a business with his friend..so he had to help him with that (atleast that is what he told me).
And I have to add this that one of friend is married to someone distantly related to his family.
sooo, this is where I started to notice some things unusual:
1) He blocked me on facebook saying that it’s temporary and he didn’t want me to get in trouble as I have some relatives as friends on FB. But before that I noticed how I couldn’t see all his activities like if he liked a picture or commented on something.
So I created a fake account because I was uneasy and serached his name up. There was nothing unusual about his pictures. I went to his friend’s list, and there it was. A gir. A girl who looked like his ex!!! And it was a selfie of them together!!!
But I didn’t want to make it into an issue because I never met this ex. I just saw like 2 or 3 old pictures of her. So I thought, I could be suspecting him wrongly, so I let it go.
But I kept on feeling uneasy about the photo soo I checked it a week later, and there was a different photo of them together. I kept quiet. 3 days later I check again….there was a different one of them together. (I kind of knew something was going on, but I didn’t want to wrongfully doubt someone)
This is when I got worried. so decided to ckeck her facebook account ( I only saw the dp before). There wasn’t much, but it said that she was a member in a church around my area and she went to that school church and graduated from school the same year as him. All this matched with the little facts I knew about the ex.
So I confronted him.He assured me that he would never cheat on me and if he was to do that he would break up before that. Cheating was beneath him. He was matured enough for that and he want love and not just sexual pleasure and blah blah….
He told me that she was friend that he met through his friend and he said that she had a crush on him and but he knew better than to cheat wit her. In his word he said “if the b*tch likes me then she likes me..I feel nothing toward her. He also made some rude comments like “she is a fat ugly b*tch” I asked him wether he was in contact with his ex and he said no and that he would never go back to the woman he cheated me with.
At that point I didnt really believe him butI kept silent. And then I met met him yesterday and and everything was fine but he told me that he was going out later that night and he has to go back and get ready. and he did seem very impation. didnt say anything to me but kept on checking the time, I even asked him then about that girls and he said there was absolutely nothing.
Also, his sister was pregnant and was due later this week. Soo after that I was home today morning and my fiiend rings me. Now this girl is such a darling and I know that she cares for me. I have told my fears to her before buyt she assured me that it could be a friend and that he was a good person. We both thought that.
And today around 11:45 ish, she rang me!!
And when I answerd she sounded really angry and told me that I should break up with him that minuit. She then told me that his sister went into early labour and had a baby this morning so they went to visit her at the hospital and he was thee with that girl!
He said hi together but she didn’t respond and was soo angry. Her husbacd, who i also know, pulled him aside and asked him was he still going out with he and he didnt reply…when the husband saked him wether he was with the other girl he said “pretty much” and jim not to tell me.!!
The couple got really angry and my friend called me immediately after they left.
Soooo I am sooo lost right now.. I feel so numb. I am worried because I feel emotionally detached from him. Idon’t feel sad. I mind is not accepting that I’ve been cheated on and that I should feel beterayed and sad. There isnt even anger. But I want aswers.
Why is this??? Is this normal?? why do I feel this way?? I don’t know what I want from this post.. Give me some advice. I want to move on. Please help and thank you.