(Closed) I don’t know what to do about flaky bridesmaid

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i wouldnt get too worked up about it – as long as she has her dress and shows up the day of that is all you can really ask for.

i have 5 amazing bridesmaids who i looooove to death but honestly i havent had any help from any of them – but i dont expect it either – they are great friends and will be there for me on my big day and that, to me, is all that matters.

i would just make sure she does the basics and leave her out of the rest of it…you dont need the stress 🙂

Post # 5
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

You’re wedding is 11 months away, right? I honestly wouldn’t worry about it quite yet. People can be mean and thoughtless sometimes without realizing it. But when it actually comes down to planning your wedding events, see if she comes around. For now, I’d just cool it on the wedding talk around her – make her curious about the details by not mentioning them.

Post # 6
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree with everyone. I had a similar situation with one of my bridesmaids.  And it had nothing to do with me….she told me that though she was happy for me it made her realize how far away she is from getting married herself.  So I cooled the wedding talk around her and about 6 months in she started asking questions and getting more excited. 


But I would definitely let her know you don’t want her to do your hair.  Either tell her you’ve decided to go with a professional, or just tell her that you don’t want her to be stressed so you’re going to ask someone not in the wedding. 

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