(Closed) I don't know what to do about one of my Bridesmaids….

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1901 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would call her today and say that the dresses need to be ordered and that you will order her a size 2 unless she calls and tells you othewise, but that you can’t afford to pay for alterations so if she wants to save money on alterations, she should go get sized asap.

Post # 4
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1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would give her until Saturday. Only because if she doesn’t do it then, she will have no excuse. I like to give people the rope to hang themselves. I would let her know that if she doesn’t try it on by then, I will be getting it in the size she requested. I would also stress that she will be financially responsible if it doesn’t fit, and she will be the one who needs to do what she needs to do, in order to make it fit.

Also, has she never been in a wedding? Does she not understand how much in advance you need to order dresses? I only ask because I would not immediately dismiss her as a bad friend. She may just be ignorant to the process.

Post # 6
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1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

 

@March3BrideToBe:  So she does understand? Hmmmmm, time for a “what gives?” conversation. Either way, plan to order them soon with or without her cooperation, and let her know that is what you will be doing. Don’t forget to let her know that you will not be paying for any alterations if the fit is her fault.

Post # 8
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379 posts
Helper bee

Oh dear. She doesn’t sound very into being your Bridesmaid or Best Man 🙁 Maybe the Oct wedding burned her out on weddings? Her behavior is pretty ungrateful, but maybe there’s more going on with her in her personal life that she’s not wanting to share? :/

Post # 9
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8882 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I don’t think you’re being bridezilla, you’re kind enough to pay for the dresses.  If she doesn’t respond by this weekend I would go ahead and order the size 2.  If it doesn’t fit properly, she can pay for alterations.

Post # 11
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255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I say order a 2 without mentioning it when it doesnt fit she will have to deal with it or just don’t order it and then 2 weeks before the wedding when she asks about it, tell her youre still waiting for her size, and then you’ll only have bridesmaids that want to be bridesmaids!

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