(Closed) I don't know what to do. Has anyone else held two separate weddings?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: What should we do?
    Wedding in his hometown, more of his friends/family : (2 votes)
    15 %
    Wedding in my hometown, more of my friends/family : (4 votes)
    31 %
    Small wedding in my hometown, large dinner in his hometown : (7 votes)
    54 %
  • Post # 2
    4238 posts
    Honey bee


    Technically, no.

    But we had a ceremony at my church. Then a ceremony at his church. The first is the official wedding anniversary. The second one was more of a vow renewal that is not recognized by anybody but us.



    Post # 3
    47216 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    caligirl0011:  It’s always hard deciding where to hold the wedding when the families do not live in the same area. One possible solution is to have a venue midway between the two towns. The downside is that everyone has to travel, but it is an option.

    Post # 5
    7682 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    caligirl0011:  In My Humble Opinion I would make a list of pros and cons for each location, and see what makes the most sense.   You might also want to consider how to make it feasible for the most guests to attend?  Or maybe based on cost.  

    Post # 6
    1198 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    agree with PP. I had 2 weddings but 1 was for family and 1 was for friends. I wanted a small intimate ceremony with family and a big party with friends. It all worked out well and obviously who doesn’t love an excuse to wear the gown again! if its difficult for guests to attend, 2 weddings might be a good idea. 

    Post # 7
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We had 2 weddings, one in his country (and where we live in) and one in mine. We only got married here, not in my homecountry. We had a small wedding and dinner here (25 people) and the next weekend we had a bigger reception and party in my homecountry (100 people). It was ok because this way the whole family could be there. Otherwise it would have been difficult for family to travel, especially my grandma and friends from back home.

    Post # 9
    2970 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    One of my bridesmaids had her wedding in her hometown because her FI’s family was primarily one province over and her grandparents couldn’t travel as far. Their wedding was in May, and her in laws threw a big backyard BBQ type ‘reception’ for them in the summer in her FI’s hometown so that the friends and family who were invited but unable to attend could come and celebrate with them.  She loved it because it was a chance to put her dress back on and do her hair and makeup again and get some more photos. 


    Post # 10
    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    My sister got married here and there was more of our side of the family bc her husband is from overseas. They then had a blessing ceremony there at his parents’ church, which was only those from his side who could not come here. Could you do something like that? Just give yourself time to relax before having to plan the second one.

    Post # 11
    5188 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    You can’t have 2 weddings without a divorce in between. It’s illegal in the U.S. Just saying…

    Post # 12
    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Oh and my brother got married overseas and then my parents hosted a blessing and reception here, at his church. If your fiancé insists on just one then honestly the fair thing to do would be to have it close to your family. Otherwise your should have a wedding and a blessing, preferably the wedding for your family first.

    Post # 13
    310 posts
    Helper bee

    Aquaria:  I feel like you’re purposely missing the point…you can obviously have as many ceremonies as you choose.

    Post # 14
    3183 posts
    Sugar bee

    A whole lot of nope. I think you’ll find that people will not be as interested in the second wedding as the first. Really though, do you really want to plan two entire weddings? One is stressful enough. I also think that some people would be offended that they were not invited to your first ceremony because they will consider it your “real” wedding. 

    Post # 15
    834 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm


    Aquaria: Woah. What the? This is you and WWAAAAAAAYYYY OVER HERE is the point.

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