(Closed) I dont know what to do, please help.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think you should tell your husband.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Option #2 would still require telling your husband.  And I don’t think option #1 is fair to your husband.  Didn’t you take vows when you married him?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Doing everything but have sex isn’t any more honorable than if you had had sex. Time to tell your husband and either leave if you aren’t going to be committed, or work through it and don’t ever see your coworker again. 

Who cares if it’s unprofessional? It’s downright trashy and disrespectful to the man you promised to forsake all others for.

Maybe I’m being harsh.. but I have no respect for cheaters. Come clean.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you should try to get to the bottom of why you cheated.  Figure out why you did what you did.  I don’t think I’d tell right away.  I’d try to understand what the under lying issues are first.

I would also begin looking for a new job. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@ohdear: So leaving him for no apparent reason wouldn’t break his heart?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Try to convince your new boyfriend and your husband to become swingers and throw a little party in their honor

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I guess you should leave him, though not telling him why could hurt him for life. He might end up obsessing about what it could have been and that could have a terrible ending, YOU NEED TO TELL HIM EVEN IF YOU LEAVE… it’s not right or fair to stay and waste his time, let him go so he can go out and find someone too.

Post # 16
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Honey bee

I think you really need to figure out why you cheated and if you really have feelings for this guy or not, first of all. 

If you don’t have feelings and it was just something stupid you did, you need to find a new job. Even if you have feelings for him, you need to find a new job.

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