(Closed) i dont know what to say or do…

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

He did lie to you. He told you that you would be getting engaged to get you back and did nothing about it. Also, wtf at giving you a ring? That just seems evil.

How is the relationship otherwise? Are you truly happy with this man?

You have two choices here.

  1. Leave.
  2. Have a serious talk with him about this and stick around a little longer.

I would be skeptical about any future promises to get married though. Eventually you have to either forget about marriage or keep up your end of the ultimatum and leave him.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

set a mental deadline, don’t tell him about it, and stick to it.  lol i told my guy, jokingly (sorta), that he had an expiration date.  i’m not sure i would’ve had the guts to go through with it if the time came, but it made me feel a lot better.  

i guess only you can gauge what his intentions are.  if you truly feel like he’s sincere, then wait.  if you feel like he’s stringing you along, i’d get the hell out of there.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@deathbydesign:  i’d be totally pissed about the ring too!  

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Er, if he said you would get engaged and now when you mention marriage he says “I don’t know”, that sounds like he’s just stringing you along.

Now that the deadline is up, I would bring up with him that he told you you guys would be engaged by now back when he was trying to win you back and see what he says.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Why did he get mad? What was his reasoning for being mad at you for that?

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree that you need to sit down and talk with him. If he can’t talk to you about marriage and/or give you a good answer, then he probably isn’t ready for a big commitment. I think you should give him the chance to explain himself (and maybe about the other ring too), but may want to give yourself a mental deadline (like GeorgiaTeacup said). Good luck!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

He is giving you mixed messages and stringing you along.  Giving you a ring too and being so uncaring about it is just totally inconsiderate in my opinion!  If he can’t at least sit down and have a conversation about it with you, I wouldn’t stick around too much longer.  At least if he can explain what the heck is going on, you might give him a bit more time.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

There are 2 rules in life:

#1 NEVER give a girl a ring unless a) it’s an engagement ring or b) the 2 of you are already married.

#2 Don’t ask someone if she is pregnant until you see a head.

Beat it sister -you don’t look that old to me!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

A serious talk is in order. Sadly, it sounds like he’s stringing you along and doesn’t plan to propose anytime soon. How old is he? Perhaps he’s just not ready yet? Either way, giving you a ring seems kind of mean since he knows you’re waiting for “the ring”.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I’m confused why you uploaded a pic of yourself.. but anyway..  I would leave him if you honestly feel as though you mentioned it several times in 2010 as well as after you broke up.  I think the ring he got you at Christmas was really stupid of him.

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