(Closed) I don't know where to start!!

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
9631 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

budget, sit down with your Fiance and whoever else is contributing to the wedding to sort out a budget ๐Ÿ™‚

also think about the feel of your wedding and what kind of atmosphere you want ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yep budget first. Then think of what kind of wedding you want, casual formal, traditional, untraditional. Then make a list of what’s the most important to you. Once you figure that out you can start looking at venues where you will be able to figure out your per person cost. tHEN you will know how many you can invite. After all of this you can make the decisions to cut here , to add here, so that you can invite more or less people!!

Post # 6
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@bricon:  I would say budget and then chose your date and venue.  Venues book way in advance and you’ll want to plan the decor and probably your dress around the formality of your venue.   theknot.com has a really helpful checklist and budget planner.  (although the Bee is better for everything else!)

Post # 7
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Decide what you can spend. Then start dividing by percentages – what % do you want to be for food, for flowers, for venue, etc… (and there are plenty of resources online that give suggestions for breaking down those percentages). Once you have that you can start the guest list and begin looking for actual vendors in the ballparks you’ve established. You’ll find your initial estimates are way too high/low after the first go-round, but it’s something to get you started.

Post # 8
2058 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Agree with the PPs: figure out what you can spend (up front conversations with your Fiance, yours parents, his parents. etc). Because your reception venue will most likely be your biggest expense (usually about half your wedding budget for food, alcohol, rentals, etc), figuring that out is most important. Think about whats more important to you: guest list or venue.

Guest List: If you have a large family and you have to invite a ton of people, draw up a preliminary guest list. Don’t forget if yours or his parents are paying, they’ll have input into who you invite. Take 50% of your wedding budget, and divide by the number of people on your guest list. You now have a ballpark budget per person to look for a venue/cater.

Venue: If you want to have a super upscale wedding at a fancy hotel that is uber expensive per person, or if love a particular restaurant that only seats 50. Figure out how many people you can afford to invite or who can fit, and they draw up a guest list that way!


After the venue, it gets easier. Look for a Band or DJ, Photographer, then a Florist.  A lot of times your venue will recommend vendors, and you can use that list as a starting point. Good luck!

Post # 9
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012


Cute and simple article:


I agree with PPs, first and foremost, create a budget.  Then add about 30-40% more to that budget because you’ll most definitely go over budget.  lol

If you’re doing the planning yourself and like to be organized, I highly recommend looking for a wedding planner guide in a bookstore (or like, Amazon.com).  Lots and lots of options out there, they include step-by-step timelines, folders to keep paperwork and receipts, pictures, ideas, etc.  I had fun finding one.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This is what I did first:  I got a planning notebook.  

I wrote down all my ideas and things I liked and prices of what I liked/wanted.  Then I thought about how much I would be comfortable spending (but I didn’t set an actualy budget,).

I then did some research on the wedding industry to get an idea of what things cost (one was attending a bridal show)…that helped me be realistic when it came to thinking about my budget.  I set a tentative budget based on what I could afford, not what things cost and went about finding vendors in my price range.  

I had already had my date and I had already written up a rough guest list.  Along with the budget I set, I called around to venues to see what was in my price range. after I booked my venue for the reception, I went about fidning other vendors: I booked my florist, photgrapher and just booked a caterer.  Now looking to book the Dj and officiant.

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