(Closed) I don't know why this bothers me, but it does

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
1282 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA

while Fiance and i were dating, he just introduced me as his girlfriend. so no one knew my real name lol that annoyed me. he would say “this is my girlfriend” and i had to say “Hi im E”. i guess it was sweet he wanted people to know i was his gf, i just wanted people to know my name & that i’m also a human, not just his gf. Sounds like we have the opposite issue lol

Post # 3
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My fiance is pretty shy, so usually I have to introduce myself, even around people he already knows that I don’t. It drives me crazy most of the time, but I’m pretty outgoing, so it’s not a HUGE deal! 

Post # 4
9114 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Husband always introduces me by my name. He’s never once said, “This is my Wife, Hyper.” Nope. He’ll always say, “This is Hyper.” It doesn’t bother me. If they want to know I’m his wife, the fact that we’re both wearing rings will probably tip them off. I introduce him as his name as well, I don’t introduce him as husband.

Post # 5
46653 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

He sounds like he got so used to avoiding any that he has simpy made a habit of it. Have you asked him to introduce you as his wife?

Post # 6
1274 posts
Bumble bee

When we were dating he would introduce me as his girlfriend, jlc3. Now he says his fiancee, jlc3. But I usually introduce him as his name, lol…then say oh yeah, he’s my fiance! We’ve been together for over 6 years so I just assume people know when i say his name that he’s with me. 

If it bugs you though, mention it to him. Not in a complaining/whiny way, but just like, hey it’d be cool if you introduced me as your wife JazzyGirl to people I haven’t met yet. It does establish the two of you socially as a couple and husband and wife

Post # 7
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

JazzyGirl85:  I don’t think it’s a big deal- we also eloped and it was really weird at first to start introducing each other as husband & wife, but we’re getting used to it (married nearly a year). Darling Husband is horrible at introductions and for the longest time would forget to introduce me to people because either a) he thought I already knew them, or b) he forgot their name and didn’t want to sound like an ass by asking when he’s known them for months.. 

Post # 9
7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

He usually says this is my wife Megz, but there have been times that he has just introduced me by name. I don’t get offended. I assume people realize what I am to him if we are at an even together and both wearing rings.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 4 months ago by  megz06.
Post # 10
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My Darling Husband usually introduces me by my name. After all, that’s how people will want to address me. I do similarly. I’ve never, honestly, been bothered by a need to have our status spelled out at the introductory stage of things.

There are times when it has been relevant to qualify our status in an introduction but this is rarely on a purely social level. 

Post # 11
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

JazzyGirl85:  My Fiance introduces me as just MsKnitter. Usually not a “girlfriend/fiance” tag with it. But they always respond “Oh, THIS is MsKnitter” because I know he talks about me with his coworkers/friends/family so it’s more they are finally meeting the person they have heard about 🙂 They know I’m his SO/FI so I never thought to be offended by it

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