(Closed) I don’t know you and I don’t like you!

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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809 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Heard the saying “Keep your friends close, and enemies closer?”

sounds like that’s her plan. She’s nosy and wants to see what you’re up to. It’s juvenile, but whatevs. This girl sounds so classy otherwise (heavy sarcasm)

Unless your SO is saying he misses her back, you have nothing to worry about. He’s marrying you, after all. 

hit “ignore” and go about your day 🙂

Post # 4
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3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You’re not overreacting. Husbands/FIs/Bfs CANNOT be friends with girls that like them like this. It’s not ok. If she had no feelings for him it would be okay.

What does your Fiance do? Does he write back to her?

Post # 5
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3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think if she was just friendly, I’d have no problem… but obviously she’s crossing the line, and that is not okay.  He needs to shut it down.  She can get her “friendship” somewhere else.

Post # 6
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Funny how you don’t think your Fiance should tell her to back off. I’d be pissed he ALLOWS her to contact/ talk to him in the manner you describe.

Post # 7
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3798 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Just hit IGNORE. She just wants to spy on you and try to live your relationship vicariously through your facebook. Creepy.

Post # 8
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2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’d ignore the request but I’d also be wondering why my Fiance was allowing this person to contact him and why he’d have any reason to still contact her considering the history. 

Post # 9
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927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@soyjoy222:i agree.

 

my SO;s ex tried to add me on facebook on numberous occasions. i think its kinda creepy personally.

Post # 10
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1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

@vmec: Agreed. I think you and your Fiance need to sit down and talk about his relationship with this girl. Because I’d be really bothered if Darling Husband was friends with a woman who told him the things you’ve described she says. And I don’t think my problem would be with her–it’d be with him. 

Post # 11
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7385 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@parasol: <- This. She’s crossed the line and your FH hasn’t checked her yet? Not cool. And yes ignore her request.

Post # 12
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2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Your Fiance needs to cut off all contact with her. You do have the right to ask him to do this based on the crazy things she says about you and how she still clearly has feelings for him. It’s inappropriate and disrespectful to you for him to continue to entertain her.

He’s giving her attention, just by talking to her. He’s giving her attention and in her warped view of the world, she probably thinks she has a chance with him.

I would ignore the request and tell your Fiance he needs to severe the “friendship”.

Post # 14
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3142 posts
Sugar bee

@vmec:

Yup plus one.

I would ignore/block her request and I think your Fiance should too. There is no need for him to be friends with her.

 

Post # 15
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3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

You’re not overreacting. She’s a pretty pathetic nutcase. On the bright side, it doesn’t look like your Fiance is buying into any of it; I just hope he tells her to STFU whenever she tries to bash you.

Re: the Facebook friend invite, she’s obviously wanting to FB-stalk you to torture herself trying to figure out what’s so special about you that’s keeping your Fiance at your side instead of running off to be with her.

I’m a horrible person, so I would probably message her something like:

“We may not have actually met, but I feel like I know you from what Fiance has told me about your behavior. If you think that obsessively sending lovelorn messages to Fiance and trash-talking me are going to make him fall for you, then you have a very skewed perception of how love and relationships work. I’m going to go ahead and ignore your friend request now. I hope you won’t waste any more of your time torturing yourself over someone who clearly isn’t interested in your brand of crazy, and set more reasonable goals for yourself in the future. Have a nice life.”

Post # 16
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3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@MsPanda:  Forgot to say you’re right and she is crazy!  I’d be deleting her everywhere and you are NOT crazy…

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