(Closed) I don’t like any of the ceremony wording options.

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I found “The Wedding Ceremony Planner” by Judith Johnsos to be a really helpful book. It’s on Amazon and you can probably find it at your local library.

Post # 4
Bee
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Hunter's Ridge, Princeton, IL

@Amaryllis: Mr. Jam & I briefly fell in love with this because it’s still a bit traditional without being STUFFY and old-fashioned. We also wanted to customize it and say something about being best friends, too, but we decided to scrap it all & write our own ceremony. (Speaking of which, are you or your church opposed to that?)

“_______, do you take _______, to be your wife/husband, to live together in bond of married life?  Do you promise to honor her/him, and to join with her/him in making a home full of love and peace?  Will you strive for a deeper union with her/him, whereby you both know joy and fulfillment of love?  Do you pledge to her/him your complete faithfulness through all the changing experiences of life?  And, of your own free will, do you now give yourself to her/him completely (body, mind and soul) that from this day forth shall be hers/his alone, so long as you both live?”

ALSO, if you’re planning on a fabulous ceremony reading, I recommend the decision from Goodridge v. the Department of Public Health. I heard it at a friend’s wedding, and we’re having a friend read it at ours:

“The exclusive commitment of two individuals to each other nurtures love and mutual support. Marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family…The right to marry means little if it does not include the right to marry the person of one’s choice.
Because it fulfils yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, marriage is an esteemed institution, and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition.”

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Amaryllis: My Aunt married us so she started our ceremony with a very personal Opening from my Aunt that discussed our relationship.

She then requested or our guests that as a community full of family and friends if they would aid us in nurturing and continuing our relationship. She asked if they would participate in our marriage and love us. She then had the audience answer “We Do”

It was fantastic and super personal and then We stole Bethenny Frankel’s Ceremony:

Officiant: Mr.MWitter80 do you have any words you would like to share with Melissa

Mr.MWitter80: personal words

Officiant: Mwitter80 do you have any words you would like to share with John

MWitter80: personal words

Officiant: Do you Mr.MWitter80  take MWitter80 to have as your lawful wedded wife? To have and to hold from this day forward for better for worse for richer for poorer in sickness and in health do you promise to honor cherish and respect her, forsaking all others as long as you both shall live?

Mr.MWitter80: I do

Officiant: MWitter80 do you take Mr.MWitter80 as your husband joining with him in spirit offering your friendship and loving care. Do you promise to honor his growth and freedom as well as your own to cherish and respect him love, and protect him, in challenging times and in times of joy?

Mwitter80: I do

Officiant: Mr.Mwitter80 please place this ring on Mwitter80’s finger

Mr.Mwitter80: Mwitter80 with this ring I give you my heart I promise from this day forward you shall not walk alone. May my arms be your shelter and my heart be your home

Officiant: Mwitter80 please place this ring on Mr.Mwitter80’s finger

Mwitter80: Mr.Mwitter80 with this ring I give you my heart. I promise from this day forward you shall not walk alone. May my arms be your shelter and my heart be your home.

 

Post # 6
Bee
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Hunter's Ridge, Princeton, IL

@mwitter80: Oh hello, stealing that ring exchange. LOVE IT.

Post # 7
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14659 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I just googled wedding ceremony samples and pulled pieces from different ones that I liked and modified them, shuffled them around, meshed them up a bit until I liked how it sounded.

Following a format that I liked it starts with some greeting,

We are gathered here today to take part in the most time-honored celebration of the human family, uniting a woman and a man in marriage.  XX & YY have opened their hearts to each other, and here in our presence, they will share their vows of marriage and join their lives as one.

Some blurb about marriage…

Marriage is a gift in that we give ourselves totally to one another.
Marriage is the blending of two hearts, the union of two lives into one.
Happiness in marriage doesn’t just happen.A good marriage must be created, nurtured, and worked at.It is never being too old to hold hands and remembering to say, “I love you” and not taking each other for granted…. etc…. Perhaps most important, marriage is not simply marrying the right partner; it is being the right partner. Marriage is a promise that takes a lifetime to fulfill.

Joining hands…

These are the hands of your choosen one, young and strong, and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.

Short vows, then rings: I give you this ring as a symbol of our vows, and with all that I am, and all that I have, to be your faithful and loving husband.

Use the engagement ring as part of cermony maybe (stolen from TinyTuna)

The engagement ring is a symbol of promise and intention.  Now the intention is realized and the promise fulfilled.  Please place the engagement ring on XX’s finger over her wedding band symbolizing that the love that brought you together will always protect and sustain your marriage.

Wrap it up…some words, i now pronounce u…

 

Post # 9
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1767 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@jam: LOVE LOVE LOVE the decision from Goodridge v. the Department of Public Health. We’ve been looking for something to showcase our support of marriage equality without detracting from the ceremony at hand, and THIS IS IT. Second reading. Score!!!!

Post # 10
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811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m struggling with ours too…problem is our minister doesn’t really see anything wrong with them. She’s willing to omit or change a few words if they really bother me (like covenant…why does this word bother me SO much!).She isn’t however willing to make things too different.

Will you be able to make changes?

Post # 12
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Helper bee

This is a little late but I basically googled ceremonies and took parts of this and that and added some of my own ideas. To paste it all in here would be super long so I’ll just do the beginning. 

Welcome friends and family, we have gathered here today to witness the vows of Eire and Fiance. Today Eire and Fiance promise to dedicate themselves completely to each other, with body, speech, and mind. In this life, in every situation, in wealth or poverty, in health or sickness, in happiness or difficulty, they will work to help each other. 

Eire and Fiance are happy today not only because they can share the joy of their love for each other with friends and family, but also because they have the opportunity to express their aspirations for the future. 

Honor parents and family here….

Reading: From the Buddhist Marriage Homily: Nothing happens without a cause. The union of this man and woman has not come about accidentally but is the foreordained result of many past lives. This tie can therefore not be broken. In the future, happy occasions will come as surely as the morning. Difficult times will come as surely as night. To say the words “love and compassion” is easy. But to accept love and compassion are built upon patience and perseverance is not easy. Your marriage will be firm and lasting if you remember this.

Before taking of yourselves these vows, remember that it is the duty of the husband to support and cherish his wife, to be faithful to her, and to comfort her in sickness or sorrow. It is the duty of the wife to love and help her husband, to be patient, supportive, and to be faithful to him.

Reading : From “The Couple’s Tao Te Ching: “A Sacred Space”, from the sixth century B.C.: Your love requires space in which to grow. This space must be safe enough to allow your hearts to be revealed. It must offer refreshment for your spirits and renewal for your minds. It must be a space made sacred by the quality of your honesty, attention, love, and compassion. It may be anywhere, Inside or out, but it must exist.

 

Marriage Address with statements from O in which we both reply “we do”

The O asks the woman: Will you take this man to be your lawful husband and remain faithful to him always? Her reply: I will. The O then asks the man: Will you take this woman to be your lawful wife, and remain faithful to her always? His reply: I will.

O: Will you both undertake to sustain one another in sickness or in health, in happiness or in sorrow, and cherish one another at all times? They reply: We will.

The wedding ring is the outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual bond which unites two loyal hearts in partnership.

I give you this ring that you may place it on the finger of this woman/man in token of your marriage to her/him, and may its circle remind you both of those things that are eternal. 

With this ring, I seal my promise to be your faithful and loving husband. I give you this ring to wear upon your hand as a symbol of our unity, love, respect, and trust.

And you get the picture……sorry it is so long!

 

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I love some of your ceremony ideas! I thiknk my Fiance and I will try to figure this out tonight 🙂

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