(Closed) I don’t like feeling like I have to defend my choice to do a First Look….

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Why would you have to defend yourself? Its none of their business what you do on your wedding day, so i would just ignore them. If they ask point blank, tell them you have made your decision and leave it at that

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I know how you feel…fi and I have chosen to do a first look and we’ve gotten a few raised eyebrows as well.  Just don’t defend it.  If people give you funny looks, just change the subject.  If they ask why, explain to them exactly how you explained to us.  If they push it just tell them it’s a decision you and your fi made together and change the subject. They’ll probably all be jealous when they see how gorgeous your pictures turn out anyway!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m so sorry about that and I know how you feel. We’ve had to defend some of our choices along the way, including the first look, and it does hurt your feelings, piss you off, and is unnecessary but like PP said, you have to stop defending it. Just say that’s what we are doing and we are so excited. End of story. Listen to one of my experiences:

When we decided that my Fiance would see me in my gown at the salon, people that heard about died and were clutching their pearls for dear life, not to mention trying to tell us how awful that was and judging us. We had to defend the naysayers and it hurt me so bad because we did it for reasons that were so personal and intimate. My Fiance was deploying before we could get married and we decided that he would see me in my gown before he left for a year. In my head, I wanted him to see what he would come home to and it was a wonderful experience for us. After that, I quickly learned that people aren’t going to approve everything you do and defending it won’t help and it shouldn’t take away from our moment.

Your wedding, your day and you can’t let it get to you because they’re not involved or trying to change it. It’s perfectly fine to explain why but don’t try to sway them or go on the defense about it. If they don’t like it, o well! You’re right to feel like that but don’t fret, sweet girl 🙂 You’re going to love that moment together and it won’t matter!

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Don’t you know that it’s only special if he see’s you for the first time at the ceremony? *rolls eyes*

I’ve had people question our plans to have a first look as well. After I explain to them the reasons why we’re doing it they normally stop bitching but that’s only after some rude comments. You should hear the things people have said about us staying together the night before. Uy vey!

Post # 6
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I want bakc and forth about the first look for so long and it was the best moment of my entire day. Who cares what they think. It’s not their wedding.

It’s unfortunate, but I just stopped telling people what I was doing. It made it a lot easier than dealing with everyone’s negativity.

Post # 7
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7385 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@mwitter80: Thats what I’ve learned from these forums, some details are just better left unsaid. Why does the world seems to think brides have nothing better to do but to hear their unsolicited opionions.

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