Post # 1
My Fiance wants to choose a yellow gold band for himself and I have a problem with that! I don’t like yellow gold. I think it’s kinda tacky and outdated here in L.A. I have a white gold e-ring and band and feel like our rings should match a little. Also, he is a carpenter/homebuilder and will be wearing his band while working. Isn’t gold easily scratched? I’m trying to convince him to gt something scratch resistant and NOT yellow gold.
What do you think? Would you pressure your man into getting something other than what he wants if you didn’t like it? should I just deal with his choice? am i right about the scratch resistant option because of his line of work?
Post # 3
Well, he’s the one wearing it–I’d just deal. Let him figure it out for himself.
Post # 4
Would you wear a different ring/band if he “didn’t like it”? I think it’s his ring, so it’s his choice.
Post # 5
@jmares: He’s the one wearing it. And be glad he didn’t choose something like this!
Post # 6
@jmares: It’s his ring. I’d let him get what he wants. Maybe he can get a Tungsten (or other scratch resistant metal) ring for work only 🙂
Post # 7
I think he should pick what he likes since he’s the one wearing it. I wanted Darling Husband to get some kind of milgrain detail and he wasn’t interested at all.
I know that if my Darling Husband had tried to tell me what to get I would have been pissed.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t pressure him to get something that you like. Hey, be glad he wants to wear a wedding band at all….some men don’t!
Post # 9
you are my opposite! I have YG (I’m old fashioned I guess) and Fiance I tried on tons of YG but when they put a cobalt (white metal) ring on his finger he just loved it. I am sad we wont match, but i let it go. Its going to be on HIS finger, he deserves to get what he wants
Post # 10
@jmares: I would just let him have what he wants. I will say it would be HARD for me to keep my mouth shut. LOL I actually see a lot of men with gold rings, usually older men but still I see them a lot.
Post # 11
I’m not really sure about the whole scratch issue with yellow gold.
But for my personally, I, of course, would want to like my mans wedding band but if he really liked something, I think I would let him get it. ( unless it was super crazy ) lol
But I personally dont think yellow gold is outdated. I had never liked it but the past few years I really have started to like gold more and more, especially rose gold. I say let him get it if he likes it, afterall, he’s going to be wearing it 🙂
Post # 12
He’s the one who is going to be wearing it for the rest of his life, so I think he should get to choose.
I have a platinum and diamond eternity band and Darling Husband has a plain platinum band. So while they are the same metal, they don’t really “match”.
If you are worried about it getting dinged/scratched you could go for a lower karat gold and/or get a “work ring” that is a harder metal and have the gold one be his “dress” ring.
Personally I think plain gold rings are very classic and will never really be “outdated”. They might not be “trendy” right now, but I don’t think they look old fashioned.
Post # 13
Agree with everyone so far: He’s the one who gets to wear it for the rest of his life, so it should be his choice. That said, if you want to maybe point out the “scratchable” factor and present him with an option or two (I think someone mentioned tungsten), that’s another matter…
Post # 14
I don’t really like my FI’s ring, but he loves it, so that’s all that matters to me. I’m just happy he wants to wear it! I would just let your man wear what he wants.
Post # 15
I let my fiance pick his ring out himself. I gave input when asked, but other than that, I don’t have to wear it, so I could really care less.
Post # 16
The funny thing about outdated styles is that they eventually come back around. 🙂 White gold and yellow gold will always continue to battle each other in the “who’s sexier this year” contest. If he loves it, I’d let him get it. In a couple years yellow gold might be all the rage again. My dad is rough with his hands and has a gold band. It’s incredibly beat up but that’s part of it’s charm and he loves it. You never know, you may love it too one day. 🙂