Post # 1
How am i supposed to tell her i dont like the dress she’s chosen?
She went for a strapless bridesmaids dress that would normally be very formal, but she said that because she’s shortening it to tea length, that makes it more casual.
Nothing about my wedding is formal.
my boys: (plus sleeves rolled up)
my girls: (in black)
and my mil wants to wear: in bright turquoise.
now this wouldnt be a problem.. for a bridesmaid. but everyone else is wearing dark colors or black.. i told the moms that they could wear dark jewel tones.. my mom is wearing a dark green, so i told fmil to wear a sapphire (sp?) color bc she has crazy blue eyes.. and she chose a turquoise that is lighter and brighter than my wedding colors.. i feel like shes going to stick out like a sore thumb and i dont want that to happen.. how do i tell her nicely? or can i even say anything? can i discreetly buy her a bolero!?!
am i a bad person…. ?
Post # 3
I don’t think that will look too bad at all. Just because everyone else is wearing dark colors doesn’t mean she will stand out. If she’s comfortable and happy with her choice, I would let it go. This is a much better option then we have seen around here. I just told mine to get something she liked and felt good in that wasn’t white.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
Maybe suggest a darker wrap or jacket she could wear over it? I don’t think she’ll stick out too badly–it’s a pretty dress, and you probably don’t want to offend her–people take their style choices very personally. If I were you, I’d be a little hesitant to say something because I wouldn’t want to cause drama!
Post # 5
I also think this is fine. Especially b/c your wedding is a summer wedding. I don’t think she’ll stick out like a sore thumb at all, and if she’s comfortable in it, then I say let it be. Sometimes you need to pick and choose your battles, and this is one you should probably let slide.
Post # 6
Maybe she can wear a short sleeved jacket or pashmina with the dress?
If it makes you feel any better my MIL is going to be in a hideous, champagne colored gown that looks like it was made for the grandmother, not mother of the bride! I also do not appreciate that it is champagne and has lace on it (like my dress). She didn’t buy this to try to one up me, I just think she absolutely didn’t think about. I am not worried about her stealing the show because the dress is awful!
Post # 7
i tried to go the wrap or bolero route… but she didnt exactly jump at that idea. I feel like if im paying for it i should get some say so, right?
Post # 8
I don’t think you can say anything. Everyone at the wedding doesn’t have to match.
Post # 9
Just let it go. My FMIL’s dress is a totally different color than anything I’m using in my wedding (and she knew the colors). This is one of those cases where it’s just not worth it.
Post # 10
I think it’s ok.
As far as “brighter”, well, my girls wore champagne pink and my mom wore red and my MIL wore a bright purpley blue!!! And everybody looked fine =]
Post # 11
@KBsquared: I know how you feel. My FMIL bought a wear a bright red dress to wear and my colors are navy and yellow. I keep thinking that the pictures will either look like an American Flag or McDonalds, and I can’t say anything because she already hates me.
Post # 12
Wait.. why are you paying for your MIL’s dress? If that’s actually the case then I do think you get some say. Normally I would say she can wear whatever the heck she wants but if you are paying then I think you have some right to say you would be more comfortable with a darker shade of blue. But just FYI my mother wore bright turquise and looked great in all the pics so I promise it won’t be a disaster if she does get the dress.
Post # 13
How many pictures will your FMIL be in with the entire wedding party? Probably not very many. If she feels great in what she’s wearing, I say let her wear it. Not worth fighting this battle IMO.
Post # 14
if you are paying for it, i think you should have say, but personally, i think it will be a nice contrast. why not let the mothers stand out a bit? besides, if it weren’t for her, you wouldn’t be marrying him. 🙂
Post # 15
I don’t think you can say too much except maybe a casual question about it. My mom really wanted a certain type of flower for her to hold that completely clashed with the other ones (pink with orange) but she reaaaaaallllly wanted them so whatever, it looks a little funny but one of those fights I realized it wasn’t worth having since she didnt’ budge when I pointed out the clashage, what else could I do to convince her, so just decided ah well.
Post # 16
My FMIL’s dress is awful as well! Howver, I have not said one word about it. It is just not worth it. Picking your battles and all.