Post # 46
Stick to your guns! Her suggestion was just that, a suggestion. If everyone listened to everything other people had in mind, weddings would be a mess! Haha. The thing I wouldn’t like about disposable cameras would be 1. the look (unless your theme is black and yellow) 2. Anytime I was ever at a wedding where they had them, most of the pictures being taken were by little kids of random nonsense. And 3. You already have the app ready to go, so there’s no need for the disposable ones. As long as you politely decline the idea (which it seems like you have), then there shouldn’t be an issue.
Post # 47
lol I didnt know they still make them! .. Your idea sound perfect to me … The fact that she hasn’t been involved in any of the planning and goes to Fiance with that idea makes it seems like she have some issues with you personally.. I wouldn’t want disposable cameras at my wedding either (who is going to pay for them 1, and who will pay for them to be developed 2) …
LOL I’m still laughing
Post # 48
I’d quit texting and calling her completely until she showed you the decency and respect to return your attempts at communication!! So fucking rude of her.
She needs to put her big girl panties on. You don’t want the cameras. Nexxxxxt.
And I agree it’s totally effed up that your fiancé called you a princess because you disagreed with mama bear. Really? Hope he’s apologized for that.
Post # 49
Uhm, excuse me, he called you a PRINCESS…?! Maybe this is just me, because I consider myself incredibly accommodating and reasonable (not to mention a hard-working tomboy) and I HATE it when people use that word. It’s basically a subtle form of gaslighting, like, “What YOU want on YOUR wedding day is just so outrageous and particular – you’re acting like a princess.”
No, no, no, no, no. Your Future Mother-In-Law is being a bit a cold fish/ b*tch for some reason, and your Fiance was the one being the “princess” for backing her up and not you, especially when you’ve clearly got out of your way to include her.
Post # 50
Were missing the fact that she didnt even bring the idea up to you herself! If she didnt say it to you directly I wouldnt have even addressed it.
Post # 51
OMG you put my thoughts into words. I have an ex who used to call me a princess sometimes and I’ve never been able to articulate why it makes me so irate until now. Thank you!
Post # 52
Update! Crisis averted.
I let things simmer down for a few days, and they seem to be much better (and I didn’t cave in to the cameras!) I sent Future Mother-In-Law a link to my “eye spy” game with instructions for the wedding snap app. I then openly asked for help with some other projects – a memorial table for our friends and family who’ve passed, and a candy/dessert station. I think she’s happy to have something to contribute, and I’m happy because I don’t have to deviate from my original plan.
Has anyone else read that book “emotionally engaged”? If you have, maybe you recall the author’s “lasagna argument” with her mother. I think disposable cameras are my lasagna, haha.
Now that we have (less than!) a month to go, we are much less focused on details and are just looking forward to being married!