(Closed) I don't like FMIL's idea and it led to an argument with FI

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll:

    I'd be hurt too

    You're over thinking this

    It doesn't matter...it's okay to politely decline FMIL's suggestions

  • Post # 46
    67 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    Stick to your guns! Her suggestion was just that, a suggestion. If everyone listened to everything other people had in mind, weddings would be a mess! Haha. The thing I wouldn’t like about disposable cameras would be 1. the look (unless your theme is black and yellow) 2. Anytime I was ever at a wedding where they had them, most of the pictures being taken were by little kids of random nonsense. And 3. You already have the app ready to go, so there’s no need for the disposable ones. As long as you politely decline the idea (which it seems like you have), then there shouldn’t be an issue. 

    Post # 47
    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    lol I didnt know they still make them! ..  Your idea sound perfect to me … The fact that she hasn’t been involved in any of the planning and goes to Fiance with that idea makes it seems like she have some issues with you personally.. I wouldn’t want disposable cameras at my wedding either (who is going to pay for them 1, and who will pay for them to be developed 2) …

    LOL I’m still laughing

    • This reply was modified 5 years ago by  MrsS915.
    Post # 48
    1865 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’d quit texting and calling her completely until she showed you the decency and respect to return your attempts at communication!! So fucking rude of her. 

    She needs to put her big girl panties on. You don’t want the cameras. Nexxxxxt. 

    And I agree it’s totally effed up that your fiancé called you a princess because you disagreed with mama bear. Really? Hope he’s apologized for that. 

    Post # 49
    362 posts
    Helper bee

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    Starshollow:  Uhm, excuse me, he called you a PRINCESS…?! Maybe this is just me, because I consider myself incredibly accommodating and reasonable (not to mention a hard-working tomboy) and I HATE it when people use that word. It’s basically a subtle form of gaslighting, like, “What YOU want on YOUR wedding day is just so outrageous and particular – you’re acting like a princess.”

    No, no, no, no, no. Your Future Mother-In-Law is being a bit a cold fish/ b*tch for some reason, and your Fiance was the one being the “princess” for backing her up and not you, especially when you’ve clearly got out of your way to include her.

    Post # 50
    353 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Were missing the fact that she didnt even bring the idea up to you herself! If she didnt say it to you directly I wouldnt have even addressed it.

    Post # 51
    73 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

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    Mal_Adjusted:  OMG you put my thoughts into words. I have an ex who used to call me a princess sometimes and I’ve never been able to articulate why it makes me so irate until now. Thank you!

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