(Closed) I don't like me sometimes

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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8675 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think you are making some really positive steps to try and change your current situation. Feeling isolated is a big problem that affects a lot of people (new mums, elderly, ill and people who have relocated).

How old are the grandkids? Are there maybe some activites of theirs that you can get involved with? Taking them to soccer and chatting witht he other mums and dads or find some things you can do together- we have playgroups etc for grandparents and grandkids. You could even start one 🙂

Another option is to do some volunteer work- not only will it give your selfworth a boast but you will make new friends 🙂

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

What about volunteer opportunities? helping kids or immigrants learn English after school or work? Working with single moms? being  a mentor to someone? visiting shut ins or residents in a nursing home?

None of these takes any physical abilities.

Post # 5
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You posted about this same issue a few weeks ago.

What have you changed/what has been changed since then?

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Look into therapy. It sounds like you have a lot going on.  I know I don’t deal well with changes.  I recently got some help and it’s making a big difference. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Go easy on yourself. That is a tremendous amount to be processing emotionally right now!! I agree with CBetta Bride that therapy might be useful for helping you work through some of the residual emotions of leaving an abusive husband, having to quit work, moving to a new place, and dealing with your sister’s terrible illness.

ETA: I would also look into disability support groups. I would guess that the worsening of your condition, and the subsequent loss of work/independence, are taking a pretty heavy toll right now. A disability support group would have people who completely understand what you’re going through.

Post # 10
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Pamelor55:  Don’t be sorry! I just didn’t want to repeat myself if your situation has changed!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Therapy is important. You have to deal with the difficult things in your life at some point or another–otherwise you just feel off. You’ve been through a lot, too. It’s important to do things for yourself, so taking classes and getting out there is a really good idea. You can also oftentimes audit classes for free or reduced prices at colleges. 

You have to be happy with yourself to be truly happy with any friends or relationships you have, otherwise you’re just putting a bandaid over it and hoping it will get better when it won’t. Wounds need to breath so they heal, and then you can move on and the people around you won’t just be bandaids. 

Good luck with your surgery!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Pamelor55:  Yay, I’m so glad you’re taking that step!! I hope it’s helpful. And always keep in mind that if you don’t click with the first person you see, try another! Sometimes it takes a little while to find the right fit with a therapist.  Hugs and good luck!

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