Post # 1
I am in a bit of a crisis. I went shopping with my mom right after we got engaged (Dec 2008) and bought a dress that I love at David’s Bridal (not for everyone, I know, but I was so happy). I continued to be happy until I went for my fitting on Monday, and burst into tears when I put on my dress. It’s ok – but I don’t love how it looks.
The wedding is on March 14, and I don’t know what to do. I don’t have a lot of money left in the budget, but I really want to feel pretty on the wedding day, and I don’t at all right now. 🙁 help!
ps – live on a small Hawaiian island with only one bridal store!
Post # 3
Oh, I’m so sorry! What a terrible feeling. : ( Do you know specifically what it is you don’t like about the dress? Is there a way to alter what you’ve already got so that you’re happier in it, even if it’s not perfect?
Post # 4
Oh dear….any chance of finding something on Craigslist? Or a bridesmaids dress off the rack? Or one of the pretty Target or JCrew dresses? Or maybe you could get a different veil or a sash? In the end, after a couple of years, I promise it won’t matter as much as you think it does now. I know that sounds crazy, but I didn’t LOVE my dress either, and now we are 15 months into our marriage and I am 3 months pregnant and I could actually care less about my wedding dress.
Post # 5
This is pretty risky but are there any small alterations you can do to make it more flattering? (add cups to the dress for bigger cha-chas, add a sash, take something off, alter neckline?)
Maybe you can play with hairstyles/accessories to change it up? You would amazed how different it can look.
I know its the big day but its only ONE day.. what really counts is commitment you’re making with your man.
Send us a link to the dress, there are some pretty creative bees on here that can give you ideas
Post # 6
Thanks for all of your help so far. There was a typo in my first msg – bought the dress December 07 for March 09 wedding. Here is a link to the dress.
It doesn’t have a train, but I do have a beautiful, long veil with scalloped edges that I LOVE. I talk to the seamstress, and she is going to make the neckline a slight sweetheart and we’ll put a small sparkly brooch there. I don’t know what’s wrong, but I seriously cried (not happy tears) when I put on the dress, and felt like I should be standing on top of a cake or something. My style is simple, easy; and our wedding will be at the beach with the reception at the farm, so I think the dress is the right style.
I know that it’s just one dress for one day, but I want to feel good. I feel kind of bridezilla-y even bringing this up now! At this point, I’d be happy get married in my pajamas – my fiance is so wonderful, and I can’t wait to be married.
Thanks for your help, and keep the suggestions coming! I’m looking at jcrew and ann taylor sales to see if any of those might be better…
Post # 7
i thought it was super fast to plan a wedding in 4 months! i kind of feel the same about my dress — serious second thoughts — but i always go back to a) the way i felt when i first put it on — that it was just the prettiest thing i’d ever seen and it was my dress… and b) the fact that until i got engaged and went dress shopping i honestly could not tell you what any of my friends wore to their weddings, beyond the fact that it was white!! i just found out that one of my good friends — i was a bridesmaid for her, for pete’s sake — had a vera wang, and i didn’t even know it. i couldn’t even have told you what kind of dress my mother wore at her wedding until a couple months ago, and i obviously have looked at those pictures hundreds of times. so… if you can find something else in the budget, great. if not, don’t sweat it (easier said than done, i know!).
Post # 8
If it makes you feel any better, I actually think your dress is very pretty and elegant. You can also try to find another dress on preownedweddingdresses.com and bravobride.com. I, too, was not in love with my dress and kept looking upto a few weeks before the wedding. In the end, it turned out to be just the right one for me. I think the accessories and customizations made a big difference.
Post # 9
Just so you know, you aren’t alone. I feel that way about the dress that I currently have. I am despretely looking for a replacement dress, and stressing about what to do with this current dress. 🙁 Good Luck to you though!
Post # 10
That dress is beautiful! But if it’s not for you, see if you can get a new one. Look on the internet and in store. Then sell your old one! Also, if you haven’t had alterations yet, maybe David’s would send it back and get you an instore credit.
Post # 11
I love that dress! Its so simple yet a little modern.. and I’m sorry to bring up money but that price is unbeatable.
I totally tried on that dress too, I really liked how simple it is. Its perfect for a beach/farm wedding!
Like I posted earlier, try experimenting with hair and make-up, it will totally change the look of the dress.
Post # 12
I know how you feel! I bought a dress because it was 50% off and although it looks great, now I feel like it looks a little trendy. I’m scared to be wasteful and go buy another dress
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2020 - Majestic Colonial Resort, Punta Cana
When you said you were so unhappy with it, I was expecting something totally different than what I saw in that link… I actually think that dress is unbelievably lovely – so simple, classy and timeless. But it’s all about how you feel… before you decide for sure to trade it in, make sure you try it with your hair up and makeup on and some jewelry, that really makes a difference. Maybe you can alter it to add some straps or other detailing too; that would for sure make it unique and make it "you". And if it still doesn’t feel right, go with your gut – you only get one wedding day and you deserve to feel beautiful. Good luck!