Post # 1
I’ve been regretting my dress since a few weeks after I bought it. I chalked it up to nerves and second guessing like everyone says. But when I went in for my first fitting today, the feeling got worse. I’m not happy with my dress. I feel wrong in it. I just don’t like the way it makes me look or feel. It’s not an alterations issue, it’s not a fit problem, I just don’t feel right in it.
There’s less than 6 weeks left and frankly I don’t have the money for another dress at this point, so I’m stuck. I have to wear the dress. I just feel like I made a huge mistake that I’m going to regret every single time I look at our pictures or watch our video.
Has anyone else been unhappy with their dress? Did you still dislike it on your wedding day? Do you look back at pictures now and wish you’d done something different?
Post # 2
Have you got any pictures? Sometimes all you need is a belt, shawl or jewlery to change the look.
I am sure you look stunning, we plan and buy things so far out from weddings that it is easy to second guess and change our minds. You may not like the dress now but after your wedding you will look back and be like “Dayum I looked good” as things you like will come in and out often.
Post # 3
Are there any alterations you could get to make it feel a bit more You? Adding/removing straps, taking layers out if its really full? Its worth looking into x
Post # 4
Could you post some photos? Maybe we could help you come up with some ways to enhance your look. I bet you’d be surprised at the difference a few simple touches could make!
Post # 5
OP, I understand how you feel. I also chose a dress that I loved but after it was altered it felt like the wrong dress. I was lucky that I had a semstress who charged me very little so I asked her to do additional alterations to my dress such removing beads etc. I wasn’t sure if I would still like my dress after the alterations, so, I also went to facebook wedding pages and found another wedding dress for a very cheap price. I bought that one, and I love it.
There are dresses out there that cost less than $100, and they give you peace of mind. It’s very rare but there are people who give away their dresses for free in facebook wedding pages. You can check those out as well.
You can also burrow your friend’s or relative’s wedding dress. You can also ask your close friends for opinions on your dress. May be, you look great in your dress but you need some reassurance.
If you tell me what you are looking for in a wedding dress, your measurements and your area, I can send you links.
Post # 6
Hi Bee! I’m sorry that you feel this way!
I had dress regret they very same day and after a few days I decided to think that it’s the nerves and that I would like it. But after a month or so I began to obsess about it and had even a panic attack because of it. I tried to work with it and came up with alterations which they didn’t real do. On the wedding day I was so concerned about other things and happy that I just had something to wear LOL, but I have to stay that although my wedding was more than two months ago, I still regret it.
But maybe you can put your finger on what it is that you don’t like? Or do you have a specific style in mind that you want instead?
Post # 7
I felt this way through all my fittings. I ended up adding a sheer bolero that went under the dress and gave the illusion of 3/4 length sleeves. I felt much better with that but still not thrilled. I looked good and there will always be another dress that could have been better. The day was beautiful and the dress was just another detail. I think we just put too much pressure on the wow factor of the dress and that you’re supposed to feel a certain way in it.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2020 - City, State
Post a picture! Maybe we can help. Sometimes things are such a big deal to us that other people’s outlook can provide the insight and confidence we need to see differently <3 sorry you’re having some regret.
Post # 9
I didn’t take any pics at the fitting so this is from when I bought it. I tried a few different belts when I bought it and I didn’t like the way any of them looked, so I don’t think a belt is the answer. I just don’t know.
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Post # 10
that’s a good idea, I just wish I knew what it was I didn’t like about it. I’m not even sure what to alter to make it better.
thanks for the offer! But I doubt you’ll find anything. I’m a big bridal size because of my chest, so there’s not much out there that fits me.
I have no idea. I just think it’s not right. I feel like a pillar of fabric I guess? It just made me feel massive with the big train and the big skirt and everything is just BIG. But making it less big might mess with the shape and I don’t want to feel even worse after major alterations.
this is really reassuring, thank you! I’m hoping that I’ll be happy in the end and always look back and see that I’m happy to be marrying him rather than that I regretted my dress.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
I think it looks great on you! The neckline is gorgeous. But if you don’t like it maybe try to resell it or just eat the cost of a second dress.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
That is a beautiful dress!!!! I love how elegant the bottom is, and how the lace in the veil compliments the top’s detail. If you really don’t like it, it’s your chice to change it/find something new, but I think it looks great on you!
Post # 13
That dress looks beautiful on you! Your waist looks tiny! If you aren’t loving the fullness of the skirt, is there any lining in it that you can have removed to make it more A line shaped?
Post # 14
Is it a two piece?
I think that you look stunning in the dress, but in the end you’re the one that needs to feel comfortable wearing it. So is it more some kind of insecurity about yourself and atracting a lot of atention?
Post # 15
Have you tried the dress with different accessories? A shorter elbow length veil with some pretty details, lovely hair piece hair style and make up can work wonders to make you feel bridal and beautiful regardless of the dress.
The dress is fairly simple so you can play with quite a bit on accessories.