(Closed) I don’t like my e-pics :( aka I feel like a lump…

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

can we see them? I’m sure they’re not as bad as you think! Plus, if you really hate them, you don’t have to use them in your guest book. Most people just have a plain one!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree, lets have a look! I’m pretty sure they aren’t terrible at all. We are our worst critics. I HATED my e-pics because I had gained so much weight in the past 2 years. Grr, but they did end up just fine.

Also 47 days is enough to lose a little weight if you feel really motivated to. Up the water intake, eat more fruits and veggies, and go for a walk every day! With small changes can make big results!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve said it before, we are our own worst critics.  I understand how you feel, because I pick apart photos of myself all the time.  Other people will tell me I look good and all i can see are the flaws.  I am willing to bet that everyone who looks at those photos of you and your Fiance are only going to see how happy and in love you are.  Try not to focus on what you hate about them and look for something you like.  I know, easier said than done, but I bet it will make you feel better about them.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I did that too. I picked a dress that made my upper body look huge, so when I looked at the pictures I disliked a lot of them. I’ve learned to love them. I gave our engagement CD to my fiance’s mom and she chose a few to put in her house. All of the ones she chose were the ones I hated! Our photographer did the same thing on her blog…but they still received a million compliments. That’s what I realized that no one was seeing them the way that I was. They didn’t see my “fat” upper body, they just saw a beautiful picture of two people in love! That’s when I started loving the pictures. You just have to look past your insecurities, really. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

First off, Congratulations on getting married!

And although I’m sorry to hear that you are not happy with your e-pics, the bigger picture is, you’re tying the knot together soon!! I’m sure the photos aren’t that bad!!! You know how us females are: we’re more criticial of ourselves then we need to be.

With that said, I’m wondering if there’s anyway the photographer would consider retaking the photos? I can’t imagine that you are the first woman to not be happy with their photos. Also, any good photographer would know how to take flattering photos that would bring out the beauty and features of any woman. As an unhappy customer, I would bring that up… of course in a nice way.

Relax 47 days is still a lot of time! At least enough to get new photos. 

As for the big day, I hate to say it…you have really a couple of ideas:

  • Start eating heathly and excercises – like I said, 47 days is still a good amount of time. Sometimes even giving up something like snacks, choclate and or sugar for 30 days makes a difference.
  • Take a look at the mirror and really check yourself out – are there certain ways you can stand/pose that are more flattering? I find that if I put my hand on my waist for photos (as opposed to having my arms/hands hang straight), it actually makes my arms look skinnier
  • Smile and be confident – The camera will pick up EVERYTHING, especially your emotions. Therefore, you’ll want to look and feel confident.
  • Take a break? Is it possible to not think about the wedidng for 3 days so that you’re not emotionally drained?

Good luck! I’m sure your wedding will be BEAUTIFUL!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ll let you know a secret: I HATED MY E-PICS! I thought I looked really awful, just a badly fitting outfit, stood awkwardly, makeup different from my usual so i felt uncomfortable with it, and basically messed up most of my shots.  I’m a size 2–so it happens regardless of size!

After some time, when I was less emotional, I took another look. And I started to like the photos more, and over time I liked them more and more. I could see imperfections and whatnot but in some the sheer lovey-doveyness between Fiance and I made me not care about the other issues. I really even came to eventually love some of those photos, although there are some I STILL avoid and cringe at…..but everyone else loves!  A lot of that feeling is that we are our own worst critics, and we have the highest expectations for ourselves. Hopefully, you too will come to like the photos more with time–I’m guessing they are not nearly as bad as you think!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I think these are beautiful πŸ™‚ You do not look like a ‘lump’ or anything like that! Seriously, I was expecting far worse but these are so pretty!

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@ShellVee:  You look great!! I love the first picture!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@ShellVee:  i don’t think they look bad at all! People aren’t going to be pointing out all your insecurities, I promise you. I think the poses are adorable and very typical for e-pics.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You are my arm twin!

 

I think the photos are great….we are our own worst critics, huh?

 

 

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Hey there you look great, love the last one, its great. Like eerybody else have said, whats important is the love the two of yu share, everything else dont matter.  Ja continue exercising and eating well. Its not about weight loss but feeling good and having a toned body regardless of size.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

Hi! I get your point, but IMO, there is nothing unflattering about the first one? I think that’s a lovely photo!

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