(Closed) I Don't Like My Engagement Ring, Among Other Problems

posted 7 years ago in Rings
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

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akamoxie:  If it were me, I’d have it re-sized and wear it with pride. Especially considering you feel guilty about your reaction prior to knowing he bought a ring. I think the effort he put into it is really sweet, and that would be enough for me to love the ring. Just my 2 cents though!

Post # 3
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Helper bee

take the diamond/center stone and have it reset.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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akamoxie: If you are that unhappy then go to the store and talk to them. See what they have to say and maybe they can work something out. Personally, and don’t take this the wrong way, I would keep the ring. He picked it and probably thought it would be ‘the one’. I could never tell my fiance that I wanted to take it back, even if I didn’t like it. I know that isn’t the case for everyone but that is just my opinion. I hope it all works out and you can look forward to the upcoming proposal.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

Maybe it will grow on you?

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX

Can we see the ring??

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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MrsPierce2014:  This is a good idea. The diamond is likely the most expensive part and can be reset into a setting you like. 

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

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akamoxie:  Take a step back and imagine you weren’t at a point in your life where you were looking at engagement rings. Did you have an idea of what you might like someday? Was it general or did you have every detail down to the prong shape set in stone? 

Maybe he thought what he got you was similar enough to what you exactly wanted. They don’t always know the difference. Many guys would say “round stone? Check. Not brand new? Check. Awesome! She’s gonna love this vintage diamond ring (which technically it is).” 

Maybe you’ll learn to love it. Give it some time. As your relationship progresses you’ll realize how irrelevant your engagement ring is when it comes to marriage as a whole. 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If it’s a final sale and nothing you can do with it, then it’s a done deal.  Might as well try to suck it up and enjoy the ring and engagement until you decide if getting a new ring is what you guys want to do.

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I agree with having the center stone reset. If not maybe you guys can agree on a point in time when you’d be able to upgrade the ring (5-10 year anniversary) 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Oh poor guy….i say keep it. He  took all that time to pick it out. He sounds like a sweetheart.  Can you post a pic of the ring.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You’re sounding a bit spoiled.  He did his best, and now you’re saying that isn’t good enough for you.

 

That said, don’t wear a ring that’s too tight, it can be dangerous to your circulation.  Most jewelers will re-size it for next to nothing….when it’s not causing you pain, it probably won’t be so bad.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Man screws up, man feels disappointed in himself, woman feels guilty that man is disappointed.  You sound like a nice person and while you might feel guilty, you really have not ruined anything.  He should have done more research, not agreed to a final sale, and paid more attention to the Pinterest board (and maybe grilled you about those commercials before he bought something final sale!).  He put you both in this position. 

I think the jewelry store would let you exchange your ring for the empty setting (and possibly a discount on his wedding band?) and you can source a stone somewhere else.  You can do a lot of bargaining at independent stores if you aren’t asking for a refund.   

Or you can keep the ring and emphasize you love the symbolism (be real, he’s never going to believe you love the style no matter how hard you lie).      

Good luck, you sound like a nice lady, but yeah, not your fault.

 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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akamoxie:  wow that is so pretty! If it was misrepresented than you should be able to return it despite their “final sale” policy. Be firm. Honestly, I think that ring is gorgeous. Diamond (if it is a diamond center stone) is much stronger than a morganite which will eventually scratch.

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