(Closed) I Don't Like My Engagement Ring, Among Other Problems

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
14968 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It doesnt need a certificate to be “special”.  They are usually more expensive with one, but if it looks good and you dont care about what paper says about it, then there’s no need to have one.  They may have been shady, but their policy is clear.  It’s up to the shopper to make sure they know what they are buying, especially if they are going to be spending any significant amount of money.   Sounds like you need to turn to ebay or another website to sell the ring on your own to try to recoup as much as you can.

Personally, I think the ring is lovely.  It shouldn’t be too hard to sell for the right price.

Post # 17
9595 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Take it to get appraised. If it’s not the cut they said it was, you should absolutely be able to get a refund. That’s fraudulent and goes beyond their no returns policy. You could make a big stink about it online and to the BBB. You might have to fight but if it’s not an oec as advertised you can likely get the $$ back and start over.

Post # 18
198 posts
Blushing bee

The ring is actually quite pretty and classic. What is it about it that you don’t like? 

The cut does NOT look round brilliant, it looks OEC which is what they said right? 

I don’t know what I would do but I would have a hard time staying quiet over a ring I really disliked! However, this ring would not fall into that category for me even though it’s not what I imagined. 

Post # 19
174 posts
Blushing bee

Whilel I do actually like the ring, I do agree with you… I would not want a ring I dont like to wear for the rest of my life. Dont’ feel guilty for speaking up, I would do the same. I hope you find the ring of your dream soon! The important part is that you have found the perfect guy for you already 🙂

Post # 20
1228 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Yeah…that’s probably the complete opposite of everything on your Pinterest board!  I’m not a classic-white-gold-halo-cathedral-setting gal either and I could not learn to love that.  

Post # 21
2348 posts
Buzzing bee

akamoxie:  Hey, I sold fine jewelery for a long time. I see what you’re saying, that’s obviously not an old setting.

Today a LOT of things are being labelled and sold as “vintage” and “art deco” when they are both modern and not an authentic looking deco or victorian/edwardian style. It’s just because vintage designs have become more popular in recent years. I frequently see these rings (and rings like yours) described as “art deco” when they are absolutely not: 

However, it would be hard to prove that they were purposefully deceptive. They could argue that the design was “inspired” by vintage styles simply because it has some detail work. Which sucks.

I think your best best is to try and get money back from the store. They probably won’t do it. The next thing to do is write a negative review on yelp.

I doubt reporting them to the better business bureau will do anything, unless the diamonds are straight up fake (maybe have it assessed by a different jeweler), or if the cut of the diamonds is different than it says on the reciept. If it doesn’t say the cuts on the reciept, it’s going to be tough to prove that they lied. 

Them calling it a unique vintage style when it isn’t probably won’t constitute lying or get them in trouble. Because they could argue that design styles are based on individual “impressions”, and that to the individual speaking, that ring gave the “impression” of a vintage style. I know that’s not what you want to hear, but it’s true. Unless the lied about carat weight, diamond cut, or type of stone or metal, and it’s IN WRITING, you’re probably out of luck.      

Once that’s all done, I think all you can do is sell it, and take the monetary loss as a giant learning experience. Can I ask how much it cost?

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by  swonderful.
Post # 22
4242 posts
Honey bee

If the receipt says no refunds, then I’m afraid that no matter how much you don’t like it, they don’t have to take it back.

That being said, have you checked into your province/state’s consumer protection laws? You may be able to find something there to help you if they really falsely advertised what it was, but I would make 100% certain that they misrepresented the ring before you go down that road.

Post # 23
3586 posts
Sugar bee

Its a gorgeous ring and it is kinda small (definitely needs to be resized or you may lose a finger). What are you worried about the most? That you don’t like the style or that it does not have the certificate? If you dont like the style then you dont like it but if you need to get a certificate or verify it’s real that can easily be done. I personally would have just taken the ring because he picked it but everyone is different.  You have every right to not like it and to buy a new one. 

Post # 24
551 posts
Busy bee

Well, I just want to say, the ring is gorgeous! But if its not your taste, its not your taste. If the receipt says “all sales are final,” then no, I don’t believe they will take it back. Try looking at the ring as a symbol of the commitment he wants to make to you and think about all of the time and effort he put into it. A ring is symbolic anyways and I think you should really try to love this one.

Post # 25
286 posts
Helper bee

I would agree it doesn’t look vintage to me….

Post # 26
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I hope you’re able to come to a solution on the ring. I am 100% with you; there is no living with it until you learn to love it. It’s not a horrible ring but I would have absolutely hated that if Fiance had brought it home… I’m feeling like I dodged a bullet by seeing my heirloom ering beforehand! 

Best of luck. I hope you get what you want!

Post # 27
198 posts
Blushing bee

If you want to go the route of trying to return it, I would have a professional look at it, appraise it and identify the size of it. If some of the factors don’t match up such as size, cut, whether it is vintage or not, you certainly have a better case for trying to return it. I would push for a full refund if possible. If they don’t allow it, perhaps you can have a credit towards the store so they still know they will have business from you. That’s not ideal but as vintage buyers maybe they can even seek out the style ring you like.  I don’t think that ring will be particularly difficult for them to sell. It is a style many many people are requesting right now. 

In the position where you are in now, and feeling like he got ripped off with this ring, I think you absolutely have to try to return it.  You have a bad feeling about it.  Your engagement is a big deal. While the ring is certainly not the end all be all, I think it’s something I would want to wear with pride and happiness towards it and I know SO would also want me to feel the same way. He’s thrilled I love my ring.  If I was lukewarm about it, I think he would prefer we find a solution to that. 

Post # 28
11520 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would agree it doesn’t look vintage.  I’d go with your Fiance back to the store and see what you can do.  Many places with a no refunds will do an exchange.  Maybe they have something you love.

It could be an OEC. because it’s in a round setting it will look more round.

Post # 29
2348 posts
Buzzing bee

I would add, the only way you could get them in trouble for calling this vintage is if they were specific. Like if the ring tag/reciept says, “unique vintage ring”, you’ve got nothing, BUT- if the reciept says, “authentic 1940s art deco engagment ring”, you might actually have a case. If they use the word authentic, and any year range in writing, you might be able to get them slammed for false advertising because authentic means it’s not vintage inspired, it means it’s actually from a past era. 

Post # 30
3036 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

Have the ring appraised (obviously not with them). If it isn’t what they claimed, try to return it. Or see if there’s anything else in the store (wedding bands? a watch?) that you (or your FI) would want and maybe you can exchange. Otherwise, just get it appraised with a document saying it’s worth and try to sell it. 

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