(Closed) I Don't Like My Engagement Ring, Among Other Problems

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
10577 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

akamoxie:  I have an old european cut. Though it’s a moissanite they are cut the same. Your stone looks like modern round brilliant. Your setting is also modern, but it’s beautiful! 

Post # 47
6445 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Antique has an actual definition. “Vintage” is simply a euphamism for “not new” in many cases. The fact that the ring is not from the era you would like is not grounds for return. Overall, understanding a store’s return policy is very important PRIOR to purchase, and buyer’s remorse is rarely grounds for changing the policy. I also don’t think they should have to change the policy simply because you made your Boyfriend or Best Friend change his mind about the purchase.

Post # 48
553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

akamoxie:  Ask if you can exchange it for a different ring (assuming they have something you’d like available). If they say no, try selling it for the price your Boyfriend or Best Friend paid or as close to it as possible.

Post # 49
1142 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I would at least go back to the shop and see if they would make an exception for you (although i would not get my hopes up). I would even go so far to ask them to pay to resize it or take it back, since they misrepresented the size, which is kiiiind of important, especially on a pave ring.

You could try selling the ring, which could go one way or another depending on what your Fiance paid for it.

Another option would be to take it to a pawn shop and see if they would be willing to trade store credit for your ring. Many pawn shops will do this for the sake of moving old inventory. And that style seems to be very popular right now, so you might be able to get a really nice vintage ring with it.


Sorry that you are having a hard time with this, OP! ๐Ÿ™ Halos are personally not my style either, although the ring is very pretty. It would be too modern for me too.

Post # 50
96 posts
Worker bee

Yeah, that is a really nice ring.  Poor you.

Post # 51
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Fknpug:  I just showed my bf and he said that he’s sure the Fiance is emotionally attached and probably hurt and if I didn’t like what he got me he would be really upset and call it off!! 

Post # 52
194 posts
Blushing bee

I know my opinion is not much but i wasn’t happy with my ring either but when I thought about how much thought and effort went into it, it melted my heart.


I totally understand where you are coming from, but once a ring is resized and actually in a box and you’re being proposed to its no longer just a ring you tried on it just feels right

that’s just my two cents I think u wont be able to tell until you resize it and actually engaged xxx

Post # 53
707 posts
Busy bee

I personally love it, but I understand that not everyone loves what I love! Hmmm the poor guy just tried to get you something you’d love. ๐Ÿ™ It’s really nice of him. 

I suppose you could try selling it on ebay or something if you really want to get rid of it and they won’t exchange? I haven’t read the rest of the thread yet – maybe this has all come to a resolution….

Post # 54
3277 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

While I love your ring, what matters is your preferences and not anyone else’s. 

You can always have your ring resized. It looks like your boyfriend should have done far more research before making such a large purchase with no return policy. 

As a compromise, your boyfriend can buy you a beautiful diamond wedding band when the time comes. Both of you can choose it. This way, he won’t have to find another engagement ring that you like and spend more money right now. Another option is an upgrade for a milestone anniversary. These options might help soothe your boyfriend’s hurt feelings. 

Post # 55
3616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

awwww, that’s a pretty ring! But if it’s not you, it’s not you. I’m sorry this got into a mess, I am generlaly supportive of bride’s getting hte ring they want as long as its not about size, and it doesn’t sound as though you are unhpapy due to size.

Post # 56
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

HesworththeWait:  But he was asking her opinion of ads! She had NO idea he had already purchased the ring, he has no reason to be upset AT her, he didn’t propowe and she get upset about the ring (which would be awful), he was getting her opinion on advertised rings, it’s not fair to be upset at her, at himself/the situation/the store – yes, but not her.

Eben if she had lied once she knew the ring was purchased, he would have known that she was lieing, she was much better off being honest than lieing when they both know it.

Post # 57
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

HesworththeWait:  to each their own, I’d hope your bf is kidding and that through communication your relationship could survive distaste of an inanimate object.

Post # 58
983 posts
Busy bee

Wow everyone on the bee is being super rude today. Just because they like the ring doesn’t mean you do! It wouldn’t be what I would choose either. And there would be a few hoops to jump through to get it resized so I agree that it’s just not worth it. 

I would try and sell it on eBay or something similar and then go ring shopping/looking with your man. You both are being super understanding with each other which is great given the frustrating circumstances. Definitely frustrating that they took advantage of your guy ๐Ÿ™ 

Post # 59
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay

I think it’s a beautiful ring! But if you both agree you don’t like it then start with telling the store you were deceived and try to come to a compromise. Not sure how certain I’d be of getting a refund, but they might be willing to do an exchange. I can also clearly see that it is too small on you. But that’s a simple fix and I never take the size too literally. I have a few rings that say their one size but they all fit differently. Style, design and designer play a big part in that. I always order my rings online a size bigger just incase. I can also see that it is a modern ring. But now a days I hate how folks are saying this is vintage when it’s not. But that’s ok. Follow whatever will make you guys happy. It sounds like your FIANCÉ is willing to make things right. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 60
2487 posts
Buzzing bee

Just my two cents- if your Boyfriend or Best Friend CHOSE it for you, AND if HE loved it, AND if HE believes that it is an expression of the love he feels for you, it is terribly sad that you are missing that.

And no matter WHAT he said about not being emotionally attached to that ring, if you think men get into that knd of thinking and you can justify your rejection of his choice on that basis, you’re definitely missing the boat on that point too.

The SURPRISE ?????? Can’t even waste words on THIS comment!

I want you to know that I had an experience quite similar to yours, and thank God, I let Darling Husband resolve it instead of crying and complaining, and now I think my ring is the most beautiful piece of jewelry I’ve ever seen.

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